A Friendship for Life or maybe more in Cuba
I came back from cuba a few weeks ago and I'm a 26 year young woman with dark features mediterranean type I considered good looking.
I do speak spanish and a guy thought he can use me as a walking atm but I told him off!!
I met a other guy (same age as me) who works at a restaurant and we could not get our eyes off each other.
we talked and walked and spend time with each other and he bought me the drinks and I refused because I felt guilty him not having money and spending money on me!!
in my culture it is almost normal that guys actually spend money on the woman ....
and I felt very weird and ashamed to spend money on a guy because I know that they have pride too.
I did not spend a $ on this muchacho.
During our conversations I asked him if he had any relatives in Spain or the USA .. it turned to be that he has a brother and give me his contact information and I got to talk to him a few times.
He admitted that he has a child and want to leave cuba sooner or later.
If I call him at his house and not able to reach him there I know where to reach him !!at work where we have met!! he is hard working.
The duration of my stay there was over a month and I saw him almost daily at his work location.
He came to the airport unexpected to see me one more time .
He did not ask me for any money, gifts, cellphone
since I told him I want to come back and want to stay with him and agreed with it.
we spoke about my return to cuba.
I looked up airfares up and its to expensive to come back it would be more useful to send him the money than me being around and all this good bye drama again. He did refuse the $$ he want me to come back. I made it very clear :
that I'm either rich or wealthy and that I have to watch my money even living in Europe.
In addition to his I made it very clear to him that I'm aware of the conditions in cuba and the mind setting of cubans when it comes to tourists and try to fool them and marry them to get out of the island . For sure I'm a not the one that fall for this games or that kind of YUMA.
I had the privilege to travel to many places on this globe and I'm not the typical resort/beachhotel person I rather like to explore
the real nation/culture/people and made good/bad experience.
I have to admit that I'm in a relationship but I can't get this cuban muchacho (i have a weakness for latinos they are the best looking to me:) out of my mind. I did not cheat on my bf.
But sometimes life goes different ways and maybe this the case here.
I'm actually considering to marry him if that what it takes to get him out.
I told him that this can happen and but we go separate ways because I'm not interested in to be cheated on or being abused etc.
He clearly asked but what happens if I don`t want be apart from you?!
Friends of mine (latinos) talked to me and made it clear enough about cuba and its people...how they fool tourist etc.
who ever reads this post please before you judge me or badmouth me consider this fact that no human being is perfect and if we would be in their shoes we may would do the same thing.
There are people like me that just like to help and YES I do send money and stuff to cuba out of my own will !! I'm not rich I asked people if they sponsor me on that matter I was lucky.
I can`t help the entire world but where I can I will. I came across this site and this posts I had to smile because a few things sound so similar to me Sad but I think once you made a bad experience you should not fall again for it and let people use you. I hope we can learn out of this but always remember we are not perfect and we are not all the same I'm referring to the entire globe.
Sorry for my bad English :)