Are there no honest Cubans?
I'm so glad to have found this site, as I have leaned so much.
My story starts like most, I met a musician at the resort (I know, I know!). I thought he was cute and saw him most days at the resort where we exchanged smiles and eye contact. 2 days before I left, I actually appproached him. We talked, hit it off and eventually became intimate, which was one of the most passionate I had ever felt. We are the sane age, is a good looking guy, and I am a good looking girl and I felt like we had a real connection and attraction. I was left wanting more of him! We exchanged phone numbers and I gave him my email address. His brother has access to email through work and speaks very good English and emails me daily.
I had decided that I wanted to go back to Cuba, to spend time with him again and to have some more relaxation time. I just really wanted to see where things went as no man has ever made me feel that way before. I read all these posts before making my decision. I knew the risks and decided that they may be using me for money, but decided I would also be 'using' them for a good time in Cuba and a memorable vacation. I decided I would take the chance and booked the trip. I leave in 3 weeks.
I spoke to him on the phone today, and alas my suapicions that he was using me were confirmed. He asked me if I could bring him a Canadian cell phone with me because his father was in the hospital in Santiago and it costs too much for him to call. He also said there were 'many problems with his work contract' and he might loose his job.
Now, my plane is already booked so I dont know what to do! Obviously he sees me as a walking CuC. I want to go spend time there and would be willing to help them in the small ways I can.. Taking him and his brother out for a meal, binging them little things like cloths my family no longer wear, etc... But now that I feel pressured, are they going to be offended!!!
Are ALL Cubans like this? It's so disapointing to me to have come to this realization.
Comments by Vic webmaster
Make it clear from the first moment to your Cuban
friend that you are on a tight budget and that you are no walking ATM. If you like it you can buy a cheap cellphone....but than it starts....
Cubans have to buy an expensive prepaid phonecard (10 cuc for 10minutes) the sim card activation will cost you 40cuc (before it was 120cuc)and they have to reload the phone after 2 (3?) months to save their activation. An ongoing cost....
Note that the average Cuban salary is 20 Cuc and a prepaid phone card cost 10 cuc. Who is going to pay? (the yuma, the foreigner)
Another observation: Cubans sell most of the stuff they get from foreigners for money...
Put yourself in their place, they also like good food and a few drinks.
Sure there are several honest Cubans, but the younger generation does a lot for good food, booze and bling, bling. They are just like humans
in most other countries.