Cuban Love and Life
(Playa del Carmen)
Our REVOLUTION is Manipulated
our LOVE is no different
Over 15 yrs in & out of Cuba & relationships with Cubans.
I have spent 8 yrs of that 13 living in Cuba.
Got married in 1999 to a child, I was 29 she was 18 (yes a Jinetera!!!) did she Love me ? Yes & she still does (so her dear mother claims & I tend to believe), but it's not what you imagine. It was HELL painful, gut wrenching, sad, obsessive & almost resulted in death.
I bought her to my country of residence in 2000 we separated indefinitely in early 2002, by 2003 she was working in a very physical professional manner (no need to spell it out). We each attempted divorce several times but we really did not even speak from 2004 to 2011 so nothing eventuated & we are still married.
I always made an effort to visit her mother & aunties in Cuba, we have good relationship that feels very much like my amily. While all that time passed I have had 3 serious LT relationships with Cubana's, one of which, resulted in a Son. Who is my only reason for life. 2011 in Cuba I finally sat down with my Wife EX of 11 years, we talked for hours & she told me how much she appreciated all I had done for her.
It felt good it felt like closure, we are now friends. Financially she has fare'd very well considering & certainly 100x better than my meager hand to mouth existence. She has bought houses for her mother & aunty and has also bought a business in Cuba.
After separating I anguished at weather I should continue to facilitate her residency or get her sent home. I decide the most painful & illogical route, I kept on the case until she had her residency. In which time she bought me a whole lot of drama & embarasment, not to mention some financial woes. She frequents Cuba as often as me & was coincidently arriving the same day I was to her province this year. That's how we talked.
I feel all my anguish & pain all the stress & suffering has paid off, peoples lives have improved immensely.
Now it's not all roses, she is still the same person a Crazy Cubana loud, life of the party cronic drinking, smoking, sex crazed, nympho with issues. BUT she siezed opportunity the best way she knew how and has made a huge impact on the lives of not just her family but all the hangers on that she supports in Cuba. IT'S as if she is now the YUMA. (actually she has the same BS experience as we do, must be the money)
Her & her family have never stolen from me (less a few mechanics on the real price of things)
My Babies mother however, stole stupid shit & a lot of money in bits and pieces. She's a good mother but is influenced by many (the real problem facing genuine Cubans) The other 2 a Doctor who was genuine with me for several years only to change tact when a smooth talking mongoloid from her barrio thought he could play PIMP to get at my BANK. I just played dumb & let them destroy their own scenario with un-palatable lies.
Years have past we are awesome friends & i got Free Medical expertise & an open medicine cabinet.
The other one a Dancer, is my Angel, we were together from 2002 to 2005. We split because she could not handle the changes in attitude towards her from friends and associates. Based on that she now had a foreign boyfriend lets spend his money mentality.
It got too much for her, we saw less of each other then finally broke amicably. She knows me well & when I separated with the Doctor she heard through the grape vine & although she had a Cuban Boyfriend she came a cooked for me daily, bought me some laughs & even sex (no strings) she said everybody needs sex when they feel sad.
Bottom line is CUBANS are a lil more complicated than we care to see, especially when in the midst of the manipulations & emotional pain. Their concepts of love & friendship are completely different to our conditioning. You have to be extremely patient & very street wise to co-exist with a Cuban or within Cuba.
In conclusion if you want a part of this Culture or love someone from this Culture then you must appreciate PAIN to the highest mental & emotional degree. When your accustomed to these things, while keeping the mind & eyes open you will see, taste, smell & experience amazing things, beautiful, caring & sacrificing love.
"in Cuba, trusting is being absolutely prepared to lose"