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Cuban love in NZ

by Topaz

Has anyone else experienced the jinetero behaviour, by Cubans living in Wellington? Earlier this year I met a Cuban man, we became friends then months later, lovers. He told me he had only arrived in NZ this year but had a job here for two years. He assured me from the outset that he didn't need anything from me (wasn't looking for money or a home) and that he wanted a serious relationship. He asked me to go to Cuba with him for a holiday, then he asked me to marry him.

A few weeks later his behaviour towards me changed. He became very controlling and angry for no reason and he ignored me for days as 'punishment' if I went out with my friends or to the gym or if I was simply not waiting by the phone for him to call 24/7. The relationship soon ended.

I have since found out he had arrived in NZ a year earlier than he'd previously claimed, he had formed a similar relationship with another woman (contrary to him telling me he'd not had a girfriend since he'd left Cuba) and to top it all off, it turns out he has a wife living with him in NZ.

I believe he intends leaving his wife if he can find a NZer to marry before the end of the year, when he is due to return to Cuba.

While I understand the dire circumstances under which Cubans live in their own country, and I can understand why marriage to a NZer is very attractive, he should have been honest right from the start. All relationships are based on reciprocity and had he been honest, loving and respectful I may very well have married him.

I'm now suspicious about his marriage and wonder if he and his wife have the same plan - to form relationships with NZers then once they have residency in NZ, leave their respective new partners to get back together with each other.

Fortunately for me he could not control his anger and black moods long enough to convince me that he was genuine and I think I have had a lucky escape with no financial loss.

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it is not something that happens only in Cuba. This happens in almost all the places across the globe. Main for men being this way is their mother and father. This is what happens when they are not given any responsibilities in way of life. I would like to say thanks for this post.
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You had a lucky escape.
by: Alice

You really were lucky. Had you married this user he would have left you within weeks.

Let me tell you about a man I met on Couch Surfing. A handsome charmer big cheesy grin, worked in Havana so this con man had plenty of time to spend all day online charming women.

Rodolfo was the biggest Bul Sh....ter in Cuba.

I read all of his glowing testaments on Couch Surfing. However when I personally contacted, emailed these people their stories were so different.

He lived with his wife 12 year old daughter and mother 20 miles from Havana. Taxis to his home cost US$20.

He was arrested by the police whenever he ventured into central Havana with his couch surfing friends.

I also discovered that his profile was being operated by a chubby little woman from Essen Germany who looked like Ms Piggy.

You get the picture. She had fallen for this cheesy charmer but operated his profile so that some unsuspecting couch surfer would fall for his cheesy charms, fly him to Canada/Europe and ultimately to her.

I doubt however he would have given Katja, Ms Piggy the time of day once some fool had flown him out of Cuba.

Ladies be very careful. You will be used. Cuban men are ruthless. They will use anyone who is mug enough to pay for their visa/ lawyer/flight. Which will set you back in the region of $10,000

I reported con man to Couch Surfing who instantly removed his profile.


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