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Cuban Love translated into Fiesta Cubana!

by Jen Martinez
(Edmonton, Alberta, Canada)

I am a Canadian who first visited Cuba in 2001 to learn Spanish at the Instituto Superior de Arte for an intensive 2 month immersion program in Havana. It was an intense 2 months and I came out of it immersed with a Cuban boyfriend. I returned to Cuba twice a year and had a new boyfriend every year it seemed! Finally after puttting all these experiences behind me (yes the majority of Cubans take advantage of what you as a foreigner can offer, namely money and the possibility of leaving the country, luckily I found out relatively easily before investing all my heart or my money) at the end of 2004 I met a wonderful Cuban dancer from my friend's professional folkloric dance group. After about 7 visits to Cuba under my belt, I had perfected my Spanish and Salsa dancing which actually won him over! That first night we walked from Karl Marx theatre down the whole Malecon right to Prado, a good few hours. HE was the first one to invite ME for a drink - AND PAID FOR THEM BOTH! with the 200 peso MN salary he just received from performances that month.

That gesture was the first clue that he was different than all the others! He was one of the few proud Cubans who will NOT ask for things, though he welcomes them graciously if offered. I was studying and working in Cuba for 4 months and I ended up staying another 3 months til 2005 just to live with him and experience every facet of daily life there. I knew he was the right one for me because I took the time to live with him, and get to know him and the family. I only recommend marrying Cubans if you've had a similar long-term experience living there, and speak Spanish very well, as a 1 or 2 week trip meeting a Cuban at a resort for example will not work out in the end, especially if there is a language barrier. Most Cubans work in resorts for the heightened contact with money and foreigners...both can be very powerful motivations.

Anyhow my Cuban dancer and I got married in Havana March 2006, with lots of close family from both sides present, then I went back to Canada to start the lengthly invitation process and he arrived 10 months later. Since then, I have helped him adjust to a new language, culture and climate (-30C is the worst!) so that he could work in his profession and passion - as a dance teacher and performer. With a lot of perseverence and support, we opened Fiesta Cubana Dance School in 2007. Now after 2 years in business, we have inspired many students to learn about Cuban dance and culture, with several eager to go to Cuba and learn to dance and speak Spanish as I did. (And possibly they secretly want to meet a wonderful Cuban man as I did too!) Good luck, I think I got one of the few good ones left on the island!

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I'm from Edmonton and have visited Havana, Cuba last year for 2 weeks. After leaving, I really wanted to learn salsa and found Orlando's dance school through a google search.

Everything these bitter nobodies are writing should be on a reality tv show. There was nothing out of the ordinary about the character of Orlando's school and I was impressed by how proactive he was and that he took himself seriously after just dropping in on a random class.

Everything from commenting on Jen's appearance, assuming Orlando's deceptive nature, and so on really makes me think that this website is a haven for internet trolls looking for a target.


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by: BRA-EDM

I have to say that I am horrified with some of the comments here. Some words and statements written are totally uncalled for, and make me wonder why a person goes to such an extent to hurt others. Good and bad people exists in any country, any part of the world, not only in Cuba! Jen was trying to shed some light on the subject of dating and/or marrying a Cuban and also share her own experiences and perspectives on the matter. Not all relationships with Cubans end in disaster, as I know quite a few examples.
Fortunately, I happen to know Jen and Orlando. I have been attending their school for the past few years and I know the level of love and affection in their relationship. After so many years knowing both of them, I am honored to have them as my friends.
The hurtful comments here remind me of an important and crucial lesson that my parents taught me: if you don’t have anything good and encouraging to say, keep silent.
Love & Light!

Feb 12, 2015
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Jen you are so lucky to have a good-hearted loving Cuban in your life. Commonly Cubans love only for flirting. But by reading your article I feel proud about Cuba that there are loving hearted guys in Cuba.Beverly DiamondsGod bless you both. Live a happy married life. All the best guys.

May 24, 2011
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by: Anonymous

Oh my god that is really sad but I think the woman I married is a keeper, no signs tell me she is scamming me. Currently I am building a house in cuba for us that is under construction. Has any man ever built a house for his cuban wife I need some tips.

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One big tip: consider the money involved as a donation or lost, write it off, all property in Cuba (including cars) is registered on the name of a Cuban citizen, as a foreigner you never have any property rights.
So keep a low profile. Keep in mind that you always can lose the property (and the money) by a divorce. A 50/50 assets split is common by a Cuban divorce. Don't spend more than 5,000 - 10,000 Cuc (dollars) When you are building a house be sure to have an official receipt / invoice of all building materials, avoid buying materials on the black market. Buying on the blackmarket is tempting, but this are all stolen materials from the State. Expect an inspection and control of the Vivienda, the Cuban ministry of housing.
They will ask you for all documents, permits, and invoices of building materials.
If you fail to show this documents your house will be confiscated. Several (naive) foreigners have lost a ton of money in problems with a "house". Most of the time there's 5k up to 25k USD involved (or more) Be warned!

May 24, 2011
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Jen Martinez
by: Anonymous

Met my Cuban husband in 2002, who is now my ex-Cuban husband. I had read quite a bit of info on Cuban relationships, so I was determined to avoid the pit falls. After spending many years and over 25 trips to Varadero, I thought I knew him...believe me I didn't!! After all the work and money of getting him to Vancouver it was a scam!! He started to be unhappy about everything! Nothing was ever good enough or right! He didn't try to make friends or get into living here. One day he just up and left! He ended up going to Edmonton to hang out with all the other Cubans in Edmonton...and now he is hanging out/teaching with Jen Martinez husband Orlando and playing the marracas in Tambeo Vibe (jeje!). Birds of a feather flock together!!! These Cubans are scammers!!! Please don't help them

Apr 03, 2011
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Curious? and my experience
by: Anonymous

I feel a little shocked after reading comments for the first time on this site and realizing they were eferring to Jen at FiestaCubana. I never thought that it was possible for a group of North American and European women and men to be discriminating at this level on the basis of an age (That they did not actually know) and weight (that they probably also did not know) with regards to Jen and Orlando . I have by the way been admiring your school from afar and kudos for keeping it going over the last few years.
I would not be surprised if in 40 years time you're both teaching flocks of Snowbirds in Florida retirement home . ON the bright side, calling Orlando a gigolo is equating him to a 25 year old Richard Gere! I am sure that as a black man in extremely racist Cuba, he must have had his struggles.

Dec 19, 2010
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This is for Paula
by: To Paula

You're an absolute xxxxx and clearly you've been hurt. In the same way not all Canadians or Americans or any other nationalities cannot be generalized to apply to everyone, you can't generalize Cubans either. Sure the social and economic conditions are bad, but believe it or not there are still some people in the world that have integrity, honor and love for fellow human beings and dont simply use them to climb up the social economic ladder. In every country there are hustlers and con men and women. Irrespective of the fact that 80% of Canadian marriages end in divorce for whatever reason, you seem to be wishing a seemingly good relationship bad based on the fact that you are unhappy or have had bad experiences. Perhaps if you werent so cynical and negative about other peoples experiences you could be happy yourself. One day maybe you'll find love. Good luck but in the meantime, don't be a mean cold hearted xxxxx.
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Aug 21, 2010
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Predators
by: Anonymous

They are really predators. Not all of course.
But they indeed first go for the white women with low self esteem.

How do I know? Well, I´m black (dark skinned), non-Cuban so I wasn´t interesting for them, lol.
And most of the time they thought I was a jinetera myself because I was the only black person in my group. They never asked me to dance or try to chat with me, so I got the chance to observed them really well. And let me tell you these guys and girls are good! Really, they should get an Oscar, not a nomination, but an Oscar!!
I don´t speak Spanish, so eventually they understood I was also a tourist. I started to receive a lot of compliments, questions, touching my shoulders, legs, etc.
Please!!!

You have the ones in the bars and dancings. But the ones working in the tourist industry are the ones you have to be cautious for.
Charming, but predators. Lot of small talks, just to figure out what kind of person you are and to find out how easy you are. If they figure out which of the women/men of the group is the easiest I guarentee you they will hit on her/him, try to sleep with her/him and claimed them.

I thought I saw a lot of hussling in my home country, but Cuba took hussling to a whole new level.





Feb 06, 2010
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Do Not Kid Yourself Jen Martinez
by: Paula

Heather is right.

Because of the economic situation in Cuba a Cuban man who is desperate to leave so he can send money home to his family will tell you all the lies in the world if he thinks you are mug enough to import him to your country, i.e. insure the hefty cost of flying him to your country.

No doubt Jen's man conned her into thinking he loved her.

Had Jen not had sufficient funds to pay the enormous departure visa fee of $5,000 and the airfare to Canada her toyboy would have dumped her and moved on to a more affluent tourist. She know this.

She has forked out in the region of $20,000 to maintain this hustler.

One day she will regret it.

The day she wakes up to find he has done a Houdini vanishing act and she see the texts on his cellphone from his latest Canadian Amor she will realise the enormous mistake she has made.

She will then comfort eat and become even larger.

Then she will return to Cuba as she has done for the past 11 years, and meet yet another hustler and repeat the same mistake, and continue to do so until she has become bankrupt from all of the money she has invested in timewasting hustlers who use her con her and laugh all the way to their bank account which is maintaining not only their family in Santiago de Cuba but also their Nobia with whom they have never lost contact.

Jen, wake up!!. Seek some Counselling. You are living in lala land.


You are a nice woman, a bit to obese.

Go on a diet, work on yourself!.


Take up jogging, join a Gym. Loose all that excess fat and if you have the money invest in Haitian or African orphans who need your money.


Instead invest in vulnerable children.

Not in Cuban gigolos who are no more interested in you than they are in Castro's Ideology or in finding a job.

Jan 06, 2010
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Caledonia Languages Does Exploit Cuban Dancers!
by: Sandra

Heather is right.

I have also witnessed the exploitation of Cutumba - one of Cuba's finest folkloric dance groups.

Kath Bateman is a very greedy woman who uses and exploits these dancers for her own financial gain.

I paid £1,750 for a week in Santiago, and stayed in a very basic casa particular, on top of which I had to pay for my flight.

(Caledonia encourages you to book the most expensive flights) which cost extra on top of the hefty Caledonia fee.

So my trip cost me in excess of £2,500.

The dancers are used and do not get a peso in return. She insults them with the odd cheap 'regalo' like a cheap t.shirt or a pack of plastic Bic razors.

She charges 50CUC extra for a 'one to one'dance lesson. The dancers she is a pimp expliting them, and they are angry at being exploited in this way, there seems to be nothing they can do about it as their director is in league with this greedy woman.

All I can say is avoid Caledonia Languages and make your own travel plans. It will cost 50% less and you will not be engaged in the exploitation of Cuban artists.

Here is her website...Avoid!!

http://www.caledonialanguages.co.uk/


Dec 30, 2009
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Exploitation of Cuban's Finest Dancer By A Greedy Scottish Woman!
by: Heather

I have read through the stories here and felt immense sympathy for the women who have been duped by these dishonest Cuban men who use them as a means to a passport to escape poverty.

My story is not about being conned into marriage or defrauded in any way.
It is about the exploitation of Cuba's best dancers by a nasty and very greedy Scottish woman.
I have always loved to dance and wanted to learn Salsa so I booked a holiday through Caledonian Holidays Abroad in 2005. It's also called Caledonian Languages Abroad.
The company is owned by a Scottish woman called Kathy Bateman.
The holidays which she organises are not cheap, I paid over £1,500 for a week in Santiago which included accomodation in a casa particular and I had to pay for my own flight which increased the cost substantially.


The holiday included an hour of Spanish tuition and an hour of salsa on three mornings a week.
Ms Bateman also organised 'One to One' tuition at a cost of $50 an hour,( that would now be CUC).However the dancers were not paid a cent.
It is the 'One to One' which conccerned me, because it was merely a front for prostitution. I spoke to some of the dancers who told me there were not at all happy at how their director of the ballet was in cahoots with Bateman who was making a fortune at their expense.

They also told me that though they did not mind giving up their Saturday mornings for an hour to give dance lessons. They really did not like being expected to spend an afternoon with an elderly tourist, who was seeking a lot more than dance lessons. They resented it.

They also resented the fact that Bateman did not pay them. Her attitude was 'Oh it's Cuba, it's the spirit of Socialismo'.
In fact she insulted them instead by giving them a pack of plastic razor blades or a t-shirt.

This is one of Cuba's leading Folkloric dance groups - Cutumba, who have spent many years perfecting their art.
They toil and sweat daily in rehearsals training to be the best they can be.

It is truly disgusting that a woman like Bateman who is in league with the Cuban government and has their blessing to conduct these tours from which she is making a lot of money at the expense of these poor impoverished dancers who earn in the region of $15CUC a moonth. So it's deplorable that Bateman is allowed to exploit them in this way.

I would not recommend this woman's tour company to anyone as it involves exploitation. I wrote to the Cuban Consulate to express my concern, they said they woud investigate.
I doubt very much anything has changed though, as far as they are concerned it's money coming into Cuba.

I do hope though for the sake of the poor dancers, that something has happened and they have stopped this seedy exploitation of their best folkloric dance group wo deserve better than this.

Dec 25, 2009
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Hope It's A Happy Xmas For You Jen
by: Carla

I agree with Cayman.

Obviously you are going to defend your corner. You have forked out a lot of money to bring this man to Canada.

You seem like a genuine woman and a nice woman. A prime target for a player and hustler. Women like you are gold dust to hustlers.


Ok you did not purchase the school but from what other women had said on here it costs a small fortune to import a man out of Cuba, not just the departure fee/tax to the Cuban govt. but the cost of the wedding fight and maintaining him in Canada.

I wish you the best. It looks like you will need it. You are in denial, any woman who lets her self become fat is in denial and is eating for comfort.

From what others have daid on here you have married a player (from Santiago?) home of the biggest hustlers in Cuba.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck. In your heart you know you will need it.

Look after your finances. You will need them to cushion the blow when you discover the secret texts and emails from the women he has been seeing on the side.

He may well be hiding it for now and on his best behaviour. But it never lasts believe me.

You shopped around and have been around the block. Vistiting Cuba since 2001 as you have done you've experienced quite a few Cuban men.

Not sure that all that experience has helped you to locate a good one though..Dancer? Santiago? = player!. Big time. :).

Good Luck though, sincerely... You will need it.

Dec 24, 2009
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JEN MARTINEZ ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE
by: Cayman Islands

Jen Martinez, I have never been married to a Cuban in my life, and my religion does not permit me to shack up, or sleep with men and not married to them.
Being in charge of a detention centre sure gives one the opportunity to know much more than you do about the people you encounter. I have been visiting Cuba for the past 4 years, some time three or four times a year, because I can afford it. My interest are art, culture and writing. Besides that I am a coin and antique collector.
I dont have to go there looking a husband, there are all kinds in the Cayman Islands, including some very handsome Canadians. In my spare time I write children story books, and art.
I am a rastafari and our culture is much different than yours. For one We do not go overseas hunting men.
Jen if you have been lucky to get a good Cuban, then you are one out of a million, Only you know your story, and if everything was a bed of roses and no guilt along the flower beds, you would not be commenting here. However, it is your party, Cry if you want to.

Dec 24, 2009
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Response to Critics -part 4
by: Jen Martinez

Thank you to anonymous (another good marriage) for another example that there are good Cubans out there, and when you meet them you will know. for all those just waiting for my horror story of pain and heartache, sorry to disappoint,we have been now happily married for almost 4 years and I am looking forward to another 13 years like Anonymous, and many more! Doesn't mean that there haven't been any struggles to resolve, no marriage is a walk in the park in ANY country, but it doesn't mean that every man is going to cheat on you, steal your money, and vanish etc.

If anyone else out there has another positive story about marrying a Cuban, don't bother posting it, as there is no need for you to be slandered across the internet as I have been.

Just savour it and enjoy your husband all to yourself and know that there are some of us out there, few and far between, definitely the minority (again I have been around the block, I know how the vast majority think) who have worked at building the right foundation to have a sucessful marriage.

Dec 24, 2009
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Response to Critics -part 3
by: Jen Martinez

Twyla: I'm sorry to hear about your friend who married a gay man, it is true that there are foreigners who fall in love, (not just an adventure) but I believe if it is the right Cuban partner, they will recognize and respect that. If you don't have love and respect in Cuba, you won't have it out of the country. Luckily our relationship was always based on 100% open communication to build that trust.I too smell a rat if your friend's husband in Cayman Islands always goes to Cuba a few weeks early...of course there are warning bells that should be going off when things like that happen and I would most definitely be concerned for your friend.

I will say however that my husband DOES believe in "death do us part". It's not about me
"letting my guard down", it's about the values, trust & open communication that we share. My husband does believe in the "one woman" thing and by the way, Cayman Islands, my husband does believe in Godly values and family, and actively practices his religion. He has not drank a drop of rum since Christmas 2004 and we don't have
"explicit" sex whatever that means,we make love. I never "opened my legs" in Cuba, the sex is not why we married and not what makes me happy but rather the way he treats me.

You are right about the food and the good time part though, yes he eats lots and loves to dance and have a good time. I am wondering what the problem is with this? Correct me if I'm wrong but most people in general around the world like to "have a good time, eat, drink, have sex and want to escape"....what is wrong with enjoying life to the fullest? I know most Canadians would love to escape -30 C and their 8 to 15 hour work day....I'm sure every person and every culture has something they want to escape as well.

For most Cubans either they want to escape the government, transport, housing, food problems or all of the above. Some Cubans are wise, like my husband, and know that moving countries won't escape problems it just changes what the problems are that they now face . Now his main problems are not finding food daily but rather following a strict schedule, having to get up early and show up on time, face the non-stop pressures of always having something to do (opposite of Cuba!) and then the obvious battling the cold, the language and the culture... of course these can all be very demoralizing.

He has to counter it with things that make him happy including dance, and spending time with me, to stay sane. Cayman Islands, I'm sorry that all the Cubans you met were in a detention centre, and so obviously your views have been skewed! To the rest, you are obviously writing about these marriage fraud stories since it happened to you or someone you know. I'm very sorry to hear that, but there is no reason to come down on me harder to make up for your failures.

Dec 24, 2009
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Response to Critics -part 2
by: Jen Martinez

Please Carol, show some integrity and post your full name and where and when you have ever danced with FiestaCubana rather than putting lies into others heads. Do you live in Edmonton? Have you seen us out dancing before? Absolutely my husband is a gigolo, if that is your definition of a Cuban doing despelote, tembleque and meneandose hasta abajo in bar nights or dance parties. Sorry to burst your bubble but his antics stay on the dance floor, it is for the entertainment value to others. He is not interested in picking up any young "svelte" women as none of them can keep up with him or do these moves as well as I do. Of course he will try to make a connection with these women, and men on the dance floor, because this is how he gains more clients, by being likeable and accessible to everyone. Guess what, clients are what makes a business profitable. One that he built himself, I have not invested a PENNY of my money into it...

For Carol, Celina, all those who seem to think I forked out a fortune for this Dance School (I don't know where the $50,000 figure came in), again sorry to dissapoint, but we have not bought a thing, we rent two studios, one is actually given for free on a grant to immigrants who have gainful employment. Oh yes Calgary, I'm wondering what part of instructing dance is not an "ethical business". Is ballroom dancing or country dancing also unethical? Teaching any class or dance for that matter? How ignorant. He actually has been so sucessful he has helped put down money to buy our house in Canada, and pay many other bills as he actually makes more than I do in my day job.

Celina: I have not "kept control by purchasing the school for him" - again we have low or no rent. I am secure enough in myself, our love, our relationship that I don't have to "keep an eye" on him "under lock and key" or "keep him by my side" - and I certainly don't feel "the stress in my middle years" of "putting temptation his way every day where he can flirt with endless women" - he has never flirted with a woman or come on to them, just try and find a woman who has ever been disrespected or felt violated by his interaction with them. Celina I love your comment " What would he have done otherwise?. Had to get off his butt go out there learn English, and get a job. " Guess what, that's exactly what he did, went out and learned English, and got a job - teaching dance! Again sorry if some of you feel this is in some way unethical? I would encourage you to try and find any student of ours who shares your view!

Dec 24, 2009
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Response to Critics -part 1
by: Jen Martinez

Wow! I don't know where to start! Here I just wanted to put forth my personal experience to encourage those who feel they have found love in Cuba (or anywhere for that matter) to really get to know the person, family, language, and culture first. Of course nothing is fool proof, and anyone who falls in love anywhere is taking a chance and risk. I'm not sure if there is any point in responding since obviously your goal is to jump all over me no matter what I say, and fabricate more lies about me and speculate on my situation which you know nothing about.

Carla, this is part of the reason that I don't continue to post here because I didnt want to waste my time fueling more lies and rumours to be posted about me, but contrary to your beliefs, I have a high self-esteem and self-respect and I definitely can handle your coloured commentary. But it seems like no matter what I say, most won't believe me anyhow so why should I bother wasting my energy???

Let me try and set the score right. To Carol, Calgary and Carla: I am also 30 years old...and I am 5 years younger than my husband. So your comments "Jen's husband is a lot younger than she is. He really has been around the block, been a big time player in Havana." is totally unfounded. Obviously Carol, you know nothing about him, as he did not even grow up in Havana so how could he be a player there? I wish you would just come right out and say what you mean...what you think you know about him...where you got your info from...oh wait, these are all totally unfounded speculations of yours, so of course you will just be a coward and hide behind your name. I told the full truth as I have nothing to hide.

You obviously have never danced at Fiesta Cubana since I know all my students and I believe they all know my character so I don't have to defend myself to a stranger like you. Anyone who has visted our school wouldn't make a statement such as "Jen is an older lady and a large lady. Now there is nothing wrong with being large, I am sure she is a very nice person. I live in Canada, I have danced at Fiesta Cubana. But a lot of Canadian ladies have a weight problem which effects their self esteem." As I already said, I am not an older woman, and I am not obese. Absolutely I am overweight, I could stand to loose some-thanks to my Scottish upbringing- but it definitely doesn't affect my self esteem, or outlook. I am still out teaching dance classes 4 times a week, performing 3 times a week and hosting bar nights twice a week. I am definitely fit if I play soccer and dance 4 hours a day, I have much more stamina than many skinny girls who come out to dance and just can't keep up with me.

Dec 24, 2009
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Cuban-Canadian Marriage Fraud Part 2
by: Carla

Is it any wonder that the average Cuban young man and woman are commiting Marriage fraud?.
Do you blame them?.
I actually blame stupid women like you who opens her leg and her wallet for the first gigolo who tells her 'Te Quiero Mucho'!.

Conning tourists into thinking they love them and bombarding them with fabricated declarations of 'love' is of course wrong.
But if you are hungry as many Cubans are, who are we to judge?. If you can't afford a bar of soap you will be desperate.

Cubans are desperate, and if are mug enough to fall for the BS you will be seen as easy prey.
Let's face it a low self esteem 'Estranjera' who opens her legs is easy prey and a damn sight cheaper than the $5,000 it would cost them to pay to a crook for a raft to Miami, and chances are they will drown before arriving.
So Jennifer do not kid yourself.

You are no great catch to your gigolo. It's a passport and your bank account and dance school which he was attracted to.
They all have Cuban girlfriends, you are seen as an easy foreigner ready to jump into bed easily, and open your purse to buy them drinks.
Most young Cuban men are dog lazy, they do not want to get off their culo to work.

They think the streets of Canada, USA Europe are paved with gold. They see you as a meal ticket, an airline ticket out of poverty.
So do not kid yourselves. It is not love. It is desperation. Get some self esteem, get a good lawyer to protect your assets, if you have any left.
And if you are still feeling benevolent the visit an orphanage and donate some food and children's clothing. Pack bars of soap and toothpase for poor people.
Do not waste your time your money and your self esteem on devious parasitic hustlers who will treat you like Sh.it as soon as their 'papelas' come through.
And to Raul Castro...Shame on you for allowing youngsters as young as 15 sleep with dirty old men of 70 in the all inclusives of Guardalavaca and Varadero.
Raoul Castro Rehabilitate these youngsters!!
Che would turn in his grave if he could see the youth of Cuba today selling their bodies to dirty old German men.


Dec 24, 2009
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Canadian Marriage Fraud
by: Carla

Jen Martinez I read you fairy tale of 'Cuban Love Translated into Fiesta Cubana' and I laughed out loud.

As a 30 year old woman too old to believe in Cinderella and Mills and Boon romances I think you have been led up the garden path by a Cuban con artist! No doubt you realise that now which is why you do not post here anymore. You are to ashamed to amid the truth - You gigolo took you to the cleaners!.

From your post I see that you have been around the block a few times and know Cuba well. You visited on many occasions so you know the score. That 'love' which you speak of exists only in Mill & Boon novels. Not in cash strapped Havana of today.

The fact is that all Cubans are struggling to get by. Struggling to find enough food in the shops, even a bar of soap. How can family be expected to survive on $20 a month?

All except the few in government that is.

The Party members including leaders Fidel and Raoul live in the lap of luxury.

Driving around in top of the range Mercedes while the tell Cubans to tighten their belts, develop a sense of camaraderie and patriotism, hitchhike (in the rain) share your car (if you have one) Stuggle on!!. Yeah Right Compadre!!


Is it any wonder that the average Cuban young man and woman are commiting Marriage fraud?. Do you blame them. I actually blame stupid women like you who opens her leg and her wallet for the first gigolo who tells her 'Te Quiero Mucho'!.


Conning tourists into thinking they love them and bombarding them with fabricated declarations of 'love' is wrong.

But if you are hungry as many Cubans are hungry who are we to judge?.

Cubans are desperate, and if are mug enough to fall for the BS you will be seen as easy prey.

Let's face it a low self esteem 'Estranjera' who opens her legs is easy prey and a damn sight cheaper than the $5,000 it would cost them to pay to a crook for a raft to Miami, and chances are they will drown before arriving.

So Jennifer do not kid yourself.

You are no great catch to your gigolo. It's a passport and your bank account and dance school which he was attracted to.

They all have Cuban girlfriends, you are seen as an easy foreigner ready to jump into bed easily, and open your purse to buy them drinks.

Most young Cuban men are dog lazy, they do not want to get off their 'culo' to work.

They think the streets of Canada, USA and Europe are paved with gold. They see you as a meal ticket, an airline ticket out of poverty.

So do not kid yourselves. It is not love. It is desperation. Get some self esteem, get a good lawyer to protect your assets, if you have any left.




Dec 18, 2009
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A CUBAN MAN FOR A HUSBAND !!! NO WAY
by: Cayman Islands

I have been visiting Cuba for 4 years now. My very first month impression, was that they were sort of Ok, honest to goodness good people.
I met my Cuban friends at the Cuban Detention Centre in Cayman Islands where I was employed. Trust me, the only thing they did not do at that dention center was to set us mad. They escaped and marched the streets, baricaded themselves in the dormitors, they threw away food on the floor, they went on hungry strikes, they refused the clothes provided for them because they were not name brand, they smoked cigaretts and threw the butts on the floor, they complained about every thing under the sun and we were given the impression that Cuba was a very rich place and every one had a big mansion with plenty to eat.
Well that thought changed when I went to return some of them back to Cuba. That is what we do here in the Cayman Islands. They come shore on the beach here they are sent back to Cuba in three months time. Cayman is a British Overseas Territory.
I reaslly felt a sympathy for some of my friends when I saw their situation and began to help them, only to learn after about one year visiting, that all of them had served prison term for many years. These men are criminals who are trying to escape and marry foreign women. Any women who believe them will be fooled. On my third visit I took 8 suitcases with clothes shoes, curtains, sheets, towells, and food galore. I assisted a family who did not even have a bathroom in the house that could flush and no shower or basin. I decided that I would go ahead and help them finish construct their home and build a bathroom. When I would put down my change purse with money, they began slipping a few dollars every day. I would buy three cases of sodas, rum by the cases in one day, and by the next day they drank every bottle. I took them out to expensive restaurants rented car and drove the country side, but they still fleeced me every opportunity they got. You cannot satisfy a Cuban, no matter how much you try. The impression I got is that they feel that the Democratic world owes them something. It took me 4 years to realize there is not enough that you can do for a Cuban. If you are a billionaire, he will broke you take my word for it. If you are not very smart you will be conned into think that he is a loving and caring person. Yes they are in some ways, but believe me it comes with a price tag. What attracts me to Cuba is its art and culture, that is endless. Leave anything else alone unless you are out for just the fun of it. Dont fall in love and dont marry them. You will come to regret it.

Dec 17, 2009
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Well Said Cayman!
by: Calgary

Cayman you are so right when you say that Cuban players are like prisoners waiting to escape.

You talk a lot of sense because there is a generation of younger men growing up in a Cuba that has become more and more repressive.

I was there last month and I can tell you I really felt I was in a police state.

The resort of Guardalavaca was guarded by a ring of military police.

Locals tell me that the island has become much more militarised since Raul Castro took over.

In towns like Holguin and Cienfuegos there are police spies on every street, watching who goes into houses and who accompanies them. It is pathetic, sad even.

They should be watching the fat old Germans and Italians who go there to have sex with girls as young as 15.

Instead they police their own people, as if life was not already difficult enough for those poor folk.

Astonishingly though they turn a blind eye, look the other way when a sleazy old German in his late 60's checks a youngster of 15 into the all inclusive hotels of Varadero and Guardalavaca. I have personally seen three such types, sleazy old guys with Cuba girls barely out of high school.

These grandads had wives at home in Hamburg and Napoli, they were in Cuba to sleep with youngsters no doubt slipping a few bucks to the receptionist.

Why does'nt Raoul Castra get his police to kick these dirty old men out of his country instead of hounding his own people.

Women like Jen Martinez are making it so easy for the lazy workshy Cuban man that today few of them want to do an honest day's work.

Why should they when they have older women like Jen to spoon feed them spend on them, and fly them out of Cuba.

Dec 17, 2009
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COMMENTS ON CUBAN MEN and WOMEN
by: CAYMAN ISLANDS CIEN POR CIENTO

In a short statement. "They are all tricksters like a spider" and I really do not feel sorry for those who are tickled by the eight legs.
If you want to know how a Cuban think, tell him that your plans are to get a visa and take him to your country to marry him. Then you ask him, when you get to my country what plans do you have? The first thing he is going to tell you is this. I want to buy a house in Cuba, and I want to help my family, my children and friends. He will not mention a word about working and being a family man with you. No. Every year he will want to go to Cuba, for two reasons (1) To show off on his friends all of his name brand clothes, cell phone, Ipod, name brand shoes and lots of chewing gum.
I really do not feel like continuing to tell the world, especially Canadians and Italians, that they are fighting a loosing battle by being with a Cuban. Not surprisingly, I was at Tele punto a few weeks ago checking my email, and beside me intwo other chairs were two men from Canada. I tell you they were just there having some awful things to say about the Cuban women they were with, who were waiting outside. I really think the Canadian women needs to think carefully about their beautiful life that God has given them. Every one of us are beautiful in a special way, but we must have self esteem. Without that we become loose and careless and will be like a drowning man catching after a straw.
Cuban men will steel your joy. They really do not care and can keep up a pretense for years to get what they want. I tell you they are just like prisoners in a prison. Has nothing to do beside plan and wait for the first chance to escape.
For those of us who want to try and save our friends and loved ones, or anyone else for that matter, we must continue to comment on Havana Guide, hoping that we will get to someone's mind before they make a fool of them self. Enjoy the season and be blessed

Dec 17, 2009
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Jen Martinez You're Not Fooling Anyone But Yourself!
by: Calgary

The title 'Cuban Love Translates into Fiesta Cubana' is laughable!. You're not kidding anyone on here, least of all yourself, because you know your playboy better than anyone else.

So you're headline is not kidding us!. Least of all those of us who have attended your dance school and seen your Cuban gigolo in action.And I do mean gigolo.

You have set this playboy up not only with a dance school and access to many young pretty women. You have flown him out of Cuba at a great cost to yourself.

Perhaps you had to take out a loan or remortgage your property as a visa to depart Cuba runs into many thousands of dollars.

So Jen do not kid yourself! You have purchased your Cuban playboy. You are not fooling anyone else but yourself.

You're an older woman who like many Canadian ladies is large, bordering on obese. Possibly with low self esteem. You had the money to shop around for a man as you have been visiting Cuba for years and had the time and money to study Spanish and play around.

Silly woman! you've purchased one of the biggest players in Cuba.

I doubt very much you will be posting your story of heartbreak when you discover he has been playing around of when he finally vanishes.

Would it not have been far better to invest all those thousands of dollars into a really worthwhile cause such as a Canadian soup kitchen which is feeding the homeless in freezing Canada.


All those brave men and women who end up on the streets having returned home traumatised from Afghanistan or Iraq and who are no longer of use to your government and who end up on the streets as a result of traumatic stress or injury or both.

There are many orphanages in Canada with children in need of a loving carer who could visit and read to them, buy them some toys and clothing.

Or even invest in your own health by losing weight and going on a healthy diet, using the money to set up an ethical business.


But no you selfishly invest into a shall playboy who will bring you heartbreak.

It will be a lesson learnt.


Dec 14, 2009
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A Warning To Other Women!
by: Susan

I only hope that other potential victims can see sense and protect themselves from falling into the same trap.

Ladies be warned Cuba is full of criminal workshy fraudsters and their families are in on the fraud.
They will do all they can to con you into marrying and flying them out of Cuba, that is their only mission.

their mothers will find someone with access to the internet to bombard you with daily declarations of love. How sick is that. A nurse or a doctor or a teacher is emailing a total stranger telling her how much he /she loves her.

He will get his girlfriend to not name him on his baby's birth certificate in case you might find out he is a father and not want to marry him and fly him out of Cuba to a new life.

They are all in on the con, and it is a major con.

You have been set up not just by him but by his whole family and his girlfriend.

I applaud this website for exposing this scam and fraud that is happening daily in Cuba.





Dec 14, 2009
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Anonymous How Dare You Say This Deception /Fraud is Justifiable!
by: Susan

Anonymous you say you grew up in a communist country and 'Completely believe how these people feel'..

So are you trying to justify their criminal behaviour?. If you are then you are a disgrace! and no better than the fraudsters who con women every day in Cuba.

Because belive me when a Scammer cons a woman or man into believeing he/she loves them and has the sole intention of leaving the island via that foreigner, then that is criminal deception and if tried in court that person would be found guilty of fraud and deception.

You do not seem to understand the amount of emotional pain and financial pain such a criminal causes the person they are targetting.

And the victims are targetted.

The Cuban con man as Cayman rightly pointed out has more often than not got a criminal record which the foreign woman or man knows nothing about.

Why else do you think that so many women and men are hiring the services of professional detective and security agencies to track these criminals and check out their records.

Sure crime and scams happen worldwide, but not on the scale that marriage fraud is happening in the island of Cuba.

There have been many thousands of such frauds. Each case causing distress, financial ruin and heartache for the subject.

Why should these criminals be allowed to get away with it?.

They should be prosecuted for deception and made to repay the money they have deceived the victim into paying out for so called 'Exit visas' and the cost of the flight and wedding etc.

This can run into many many thousands of Dollars.

The Castros are laughing all the way to their offshore banks from the money they are making by some vulnerable tourist paying them in 'Exit Visas' I believe it costs $5,000 to export these loafers out of Cuba.

Have you noticed how the brains are never allowed out?.

Oh no, the scientists, the engineers, the doctors do not stand a chance of getting out. Even if they marry for love they are denied the opportunity of leaving.

But Raoul is delighted that some poor woman has put hersleld into debt by paying him to take some idler hustler off his hands.

It makes sense that he wants to see the back of the workshy hustler who plays all night and sleeps all day.

Why would ay country want to subsidise aq lazy workshy loafer. Why would'nt that country kick him out with their blessing, and offload him to some unsuspecting naive tourist.

I applaud websites like this one for exposing the 'Te Quiero Mucho' scam, and believe me it is a scam.

I was scammed by a workshy con man from Santiago. I stupidly fell for his B.S. I now know I was set up.

Sadly I have to raise and support his daughter while he hits the nighclubs of London each night and drinks and smokes and scams other women.

I am awaiting my divorce and had him evicted from my home.

I am not the only one. There are many thousands of women in my situation. I learnt my lesson too late and am $20,000 in debt.







Dec 10, 2009
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MR ANONYMOUS: BE REAL
by: Cayman Islands

I am strickened to hear that Canada is a voilent place. Did not know. We have hundreds of them living in the Cayman Islands, from Police, Indian Chief and all. Cayman Islands is a British Overseas Territory, has our small share of crimes, but the men and women are well respected. We do not dress half naked and walk the streets in short, shorts and belly riders. 75 percent of the crime committed in this country is by foreign people who are here on work permits. We have to import labour because the cayman population is only 55,000. with 20,000. out of that amount ios foreign people from all walks of life including Canada and Cuba. Cayman have daily flights to Cuba, and many who visit Cuba experience the wrath of these comments.
I have been visiting Cuba for the past 4 years, sometimes three or four times a year. Of course it took me at least years two years of visit, to really understand the way Cubans think. Yes I agree they, at first is not agressive, but they are cunning like a MAHA, a MAHA that waits silently for the chicken to pounce and eat.

What I have observed, is that Cubans believe the democratic world owes them something. Sorry this have to change. You could not give them enough, that they will feel satisfied, and will rob you at the slightest opportunity they get. You cannot go to the Law if you are a foreigner, because as I see it everybody wants a regalo.

I can understand you defending your people, I would too, but maybe you have been away too long. And as for Cuba Changing !!! That would in no way be an advantage to them, because right now all they need is a door to open and a wholy war would break in Cuba. Then they would be nothing more than a continued pest to the world.

There is a reason why Cuba is the only Communist place left in the world. Its because the Premier realize who they are, and no matter where they go or what they do or how much they get, they will always be unsatisfied with only one motive in mind to trick and manipulate.

When a man is imprisoned, all he has is time to plan, and after a long time of planning he becomes perfect at what he does. That,s a Cuban.
Many of these women wo go to Cuba and talk with these Cuban Hustlers ned to check their prison record. Seventy five percent of Cuban men have been to prison for something or the other. They pay and get a clean record. With the right kind of money in Cuban, you can buy anything, believe me. I have seen it happened. The one sad thing about these Cuban men is that they only want to escape, ses, food, drink rum and good time. They does not believe in family or Godly values. If that kind of life is what you want then a Cuban is the right man for the job. If not leave them alone, they will only make you happy in explicit sex. That wears out like an old shoe, and he is ready to move on. Set your goals and dont change them. Life is short. Be good to yourself.

Dec 10, 2009
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BE REAL
by: Anonymous

it fascinates me how dumb some of these comments are !!!! it screams to heaven i had to drop a comment how painful some of you might feel, but you brought this to yourself no one forced a gun to your head, there are hustler in any city in any country why should cuba be an exception, obvisously for a person who have never danced salsa or lived in hot country before its going to be extremely difficult to understand those wonderful lively people, some of you are having racial issue to start with and i dont believe there was a shot of love to even enter the marrige as you know if the person loves you or not by the way you feel about eachother, i've been fortunate enough to live in many different places all around the world and love happens just like that out of the blue, there are genuine people and liars and cheaters on evry other corner in every city, wait a minute, you went to cuba thinking thats its somehowe magically different there ? like these people are not humans ? its not their fault you walking around in a hot summer dress and skimpy bikini all day long with a wonderful tan and a smile, somehow possesing a great easy sex appeal, these men in cuba are VERY RESPECTFUL which i cannot say about many and many men here in canada, where you would get whistled on, grabbed, kidnapped and rapped by a drunk or a high horny individual, maybe you should go around Toronto and see the ugly downtown reality - its pretty scary, people dropping drugs into girls drinks just to rape them at the end of the night at some alleyway gang bang, helllllooooo - this is the reality and its disquisting, on the other hand in cuba people are more on the street socializing with all others because they have no internet to be browsing in their spare time till 4am and they dont play any of that wii games somewhere locked up in their roomm either, its no surprise these beautiful men or women leave after they arrive here to canada because the cultural shock is so dramatic to them they loose their mind trying to adjust and catch up on what they have missed on the whole life. please stop looking what they do wrong and look at your own self what did you do to deserve this !
i grew up in the communist country myself and i completely understand what and how these people feel and how hard the life out there is for them, the day these people will be free is the day your disgrading comments will stop being published. grow a real men not hate !

Nov 29, 2009
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Cayman I Agree It's a Matter Of Time Before He Does the Vanishing Act
by: Carol

I could not agree more Cayman.

Women loose their head when they meet a Cuban man and the men know it and play on it.

The have an inbuilt radar for the women with low self image. She is tubby she laughs a lot, she open her purse as quick as she open her legs.

She is desperate for romance. She was raised in a cold climate and dated cold men.

So the Cuban hustler spots this and moves in for the kill. What they are hoping for is a quick marriage and a ticket out of Cuba.

Jen's man must have thought he had died and gone to heaven or that Christmas had arrived early when Jen not only married him and provided him with a ticket to Canada and papers, she also bought him a dance school where he will continual acccess to younger svelte and more beautiful women.

How stressful must that be for Jen or any woman in her position.

I agree with you Cayman when you say visit Cuba, it is a beautiful island. Make friends, explore the culture, dance, swim.

But do not marry them. It will only lead to heartbreak.

Visit, even stay for extended periods. If a man is genuine he will accept this. He will throw a strop if a woman does not want to marry or fly him to her country. He will understand.

Live with him in Cuba if it's love.

Why marry?.

Marriage is a dirty word these days, tainted by the hustlers who want to use it as a means to a passport.

Most of my friends are single. They do not see the point of marriage.

If they love each other they live together and they are happy. No one is using anyone. It is 50/50. No money status or residency involved.

Why marry someone when you know their only goal is to get a passport out of poverty.

If Jen had told her man she was not prepared to marry him or fly him to Canada, how long would he have stuck around?.

Nov 29, 2009
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ITS JUST A MATTER OF TIME
by: Cayman Islands

It,s just a matter of time when you will be writing to say he is gone, Edmunton Alberta. Patience? you could never live as long to have as much patience as a Cuban. Remember these people have nothing in mind but to wait, and wait and wait like a cat with a mouse. Every time the mouse tries to run the cat taps him with the paw to see if he is dead, then eats off the head and tail and dinner is served.
To anyone who thinks they have found the perfect Cuban man or woman I wish you luck, because you will need lots of it.
Has anyone noted that there are only white people Italians, Canadians, French and germans looking for these hot blooded men and women to satisfy them in a sexual way. With a Cuban National, they have an itch for variety with a lot of spice. Have you been to Cuba and tried getting a hot pepper or pepper sause? That is a No, No, to them. Why?. They aint use to it. But when they do, they cant get enough of it.
So unless you have your head screwed on correctly you will be used, and it will only be a matter of time. One or two trips to Cuba is not enough to know what is going down with your man or woman. His Cuban woman or man does not care. They will move out to the next room and live with mom or grandma when you are comming. Waiting like the Cat. My advise to all is, if you are looking for adventure, then Cuba is the place. If you are lookikng for a wife or husband please leave the Cubans alone.

Nov 29, 2009
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Jen Love Is Not For Sale
by: Carol

I agree with the last comment by Celina, you cannot purchase a man.

I have been to Cuba and seen so many ladies like Jen lose their heart and their head to Cuba playboys who usually work in the all incluive hotels which they always stay in or the dance venues they go to to meet these men.

The biggest hustlers in Cuba always trawl the dance venues, they also work at the all incluive hotels. Why? because that is where they can pick up a foreign woman and have access to tips and perhaps hit the jackpot and charm her so that she will be foolish enough to fund their lifestyle as Jen has done.

I live in Canada, I have danced at Fiesta Cubana. Jen is an older lady and a large lady. Now there is nothing wrong with being large, I am sure she is a very nice person.

But a lot of Canadian ladies have a weight problem which effects their self esteem. They are easy prey for the cunning Cuban con man.

Jen's husband is a lot younger than she is. He really has been around the block, been a big time player in Havana.

He played her, won her over, she lost her heart. Forked out a fortune to get him to Canada and an even larger fortune to set up a dance school for him.

Anyone who sees them can realise the tru picture. The chubby older man and the charming younger hustler who has been set up in his own dance school. Like Cinderella his fairytale has been realised courtesy of Jen.

Whether Jen's fairytale has materialised or will continue, remains to be seen.

I wish you well Jen, somehow I do believe though that you should wake up and smell coffee.

Why have you put so much pressure on yourself in your middle years. Keeping tabs on a playboy will age you before your tiime.

Far better had you taken care of your self esteem and your obesity problem, and used your language skills to acquire a good job than would keep you in a comfortable lifestyle in your middle years.

I have seen so many large ladies like you lose their hearts to casanovas in Cuba.

It always ends in disaster, emotional as well as financial.

There is a patttern, large Canadian, low self esteem, cunning jinitera pounces on his easy prey, ticket to Canada, passport, she maintains him, he does not appreciate it and in time makes her life hell.

Love cannot be purchased this applies to any man, and even more so to Cuban men.

Nov 28, 2009
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You Bought Him A Dance School - I Hope He's Worth It
by: Celina

Jen, your story sounds a bit too much like a fairy tale.

You have imported this man to Canada, paid out at least $5,000 in exit visas, marriage ceremony,registration, flight.

You've set him up in a dance school which must have set you back at least another $50,000. I just hope he is worth it.

I would keep an eye on him. Don't you realise you have put temptation his way every day and how much those Canadian women love a Cuban man?.

What on earth were you thinking about buying a dance school where he can flirt day in day out with endless women.

Dancers live musicians are very hard work, a lot of baggage, and you are putting a lot of hard work into maintaining him and pandering to his whims.

I take it you are a lot older than him and setting him up in his own dance school you felt was a way to keep him by your side.

What would he have done otherwise?. Had to get off his butt go out there learn English, and get a job.

You have kept control of him buy purchasing him the school, you are keeping him on a tight reiin.

But you know what Jen. Love can be kept under lck and key. Like grains of sand which you hold in your hand. Grip it tightly and it slips away.

Hold it openly and it stays.

Think about that.

You can bring a horse to water but you sure as hell can't make him drink it.


Think five or ten years down the line, your wrinkles have developed (that's if you've not taken to botox and surgery) and he is dancing with pretty young teens.

How stressed will your middle years be?.

That is if he has not disappeared long before then.


You've painted a pie in the sky fairy tale, but anyone who reads your stry can read between the lines.

You are trying a bit too hard to convince us that it the real thing.






Aug 15, 2009
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Cuban Amor
by: Jose Garcia

Classic Cuban love story. Thought I was too smart, too educated, too, well, too everything. I was sure she loved me, I was half correct she loved my money and independence. I guess I was wrong about the love part.

Yah, well and if you think I am stupid think again. I met her at work, know her family, we exchange XMAS cards blah blah, means nothing to Cubans. They could give a crap about family ties. Most English people confuse a forced economic situation of sharing houses to a good family companionship, don't confuse it, you may not see you Canadian family very much but your relationship is likely far more deeper and meaningful than the "what color is the white rice today" Cuban chat before the teles come on.........

I know many Cubanas and have never met one that successfully integrated into Western society. The only Cuban woman I respect is in Miami and she is quite career orientated, nope you ain't gonna meet her in Havana.

For all you foolish Canadians who believe they will have a good esposa/epososo think again. I remember a quote I read when I first met my wife (ex need to call my lawyer); "the best thing to do with Cuban women is leave them at home". Probably the only good advice I ever had regarding the Cuban phenomenon.


Jun 05, 2009
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LIVING IN CUBA WITH YOUR SPOUSE IS FAR BETTER
by: Twyla - Cayman Islands

I do agree living in Cuba with your spouse or lover is far better for those who can give up what they have in a foreign Country. Learning to speak the spanish language is most important. However leaving my country to reside permanently in Cuba, could not work for me, because I would have too much to loose.
To the persons whom have been lucky to enjoy a happy marriage, I hope this continues for you. However I will say, dont let your guard down, stay focused, because most of them tire quickly of the one woman thing, and do not believe In death do us part.
I have a cousin who recently married a Cuban, and he is now living in Cayman Islands. I am happy for her. She is a good woman well financed with a good reputation. What I cant understand is that when ever they visit Cuba he always go and stay 2 weeks ahead, then she comes to visit with him after. Can't figure it out, no more than to say "I smell a Rat"

Jun 05, 2009
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another good marriage
by: Anonymous

I met my Cuban husband in 1996 in the Czech Republic. I married him one year later, after living with him for six months, so that he could come back to Canada with me. We've been together for 13 years! And we have two gorgeous children too.
Falling in love is always scary and no one can ever look into a crystal ball and know what the future will be. But I always think people somehow know when it's right. You have to consider the person's education, interests, previous relationships, and relationship with their mother! My husband never asked me for a thing either. I always knew he was the right one and I hate to be morbid, if he goes first, that's it for me! I'm sure I'll never meet anyone else who meets his standard!
To those out there dating a Cuban, be wary and be forewarned, I have met many Cubans who fit the description of the cheaters and abusers like the ones written about on here. But if you find a good one, you will know.

Jan 29, 2009
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FIESTA CUBANA!
by: Twyla


I read your lovely story and I am so happy for you. I feel positive you love this man and I do hope he will continue to return the love you have given him. I also have a Cuban friend who married a wealthy lady from France and stayed with his lovely wife in France for many, many years. However he kept visiting Cuba on a regular basis, and became involved and impatient for the hot love of a Cuban man who is married in Cuba with a family. He convinced his wife who is older than he is to buy a home back in Cuba. This she did, and spent a few months with him only to find out he was Gay. She eventually left him and went back to France, Not helping him financially anymore and not visiting him. His adventure with his hot cuban lover has lost interest and my friend feels devasted. My friend does not have any children and is now realizing what a fool he has been. However he is a wonderful person that I will always respect, although he is suffering much. Cubans need to be more appreciative to those who love them. Cubans love carelessly, and need to realize that when a foreigner visits Cuba and gets involved, its not always an adventure, it is mostly searching for love. Being honest is the best way for a happy life.

Jan 29, 2009
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Finally a Positive Cuban Marriage Story
by: Vic

Hi Jen,
Thanks for sharing this wonderful story, after so many sad stories about Cuban Marriage Fraud, scams and cheating your story is a refreshing.
You really did it perfect, made the effort to learn the language and study the culture very important to understand the people and the country. You took your time to learn your partner, the family, the daily life in Cuba.....
All I can say you drove a perfect track.
You chose to return to Canada, I do understand it's not easy to make a living in Cuba. My experience is that some Cubans get homesick after time. I am married to a Cubana but decided to retire in Cuba because I know my Cuban wife will get homesick after a few years.
Thanks for sharing your experience and I wish you all the best and a continuing happy marriage.
Vic
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