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by loriana
(canada)

I married a Cuban man, only find out that he had a wife and 1 year old son after the fact he married me and sponsered him to my country, and his cuban wife told him to get me pregnant to secure his visa to my country. 10 days after our baby was born, he split...haven't heard from him since...

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it sucks, however...
by: trailsman

While I am in no way condoning fraud, I think we should look at the "victim's" motivations.

Many single men and women go to the carribean in the hopes of having a steamy affair with a hot latino/latina. Why would you think of this when the available mates in Flin Flon, Manitoba (or wherever) don't give you a second look? You know the answer... because you're a "rich" foreigner.

Hooking up with someone in the developing world because being a Westerner gives you confidence is, at best neo-colonialism. At worst its a form of sex-tourism.

Maybe by emotionally attaching yourself is a way to justify things in your mind, but make no mistake- there's a power imbalance and they know it, perhaps even resent it.

So maybe you think you're Julia Roberts in "Eat, Pray, Love" but you're really Richard Gere in "Pretty Woman."

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Totally Agree
by: Donna

I agree with the last comment. People need to keep their eyes open, and it is easy to become very cynical when we read the stories on here.

However it's not because some women or men were scammed that all Cubans are out to scam or con a foreigner.

We only create problems for ourselves by being naive. Why do some women think they have to buy expensive presents for layabout Cuban men. I have seen those guys with the latest designer clothes, cell phones and ipods.

How can these women ever know if they guy cares about them if they are buying their affection.

How can a man who sends money to his jinetera in Cuba know that she is with him out of love or because of the money he sends her.

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marrying a cuban
by: Anonymous

The story is certainly sad. Poverty does not justify that kind of behavior but this kind of experience does not mean that all Cubans are fraudulent and that their friendliness is based on the pursuit of money. Many relationships fail and people marry for money and other interests everywhere not just in developing countries. If you meet a seemingly nice Cuban guy or girl, open your eyes but do not turn your back on what could be a fulfilling and long lasting relationship.

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Good for the Cuban
by: Anonymous

I agree with Bill. I have to sympathy for you.

As for Twyla, if you go to Cuba as much as you say you do. Then shame on you. Do you really think, the cuban people see any of the money you spend? Go visit one of the hospitals. Go into some random cubans home and see what they have in their refrigerator, if they even have one. The people there have nothing. If it means getting on a raft and losing your life or marring some pathetic soul to get out, good for the cuban that makes it. Why don't you try living in cuba with $15
a month. See how much you like the government then. You are a fool. I too would love to see Cuba. When it's free from communism.
My family has lost so much, I would never give my money to that government. I give thanks to the United states for opening the door to my family. They left the proper way, as a family with the proper paper documentation. So say you have learned so much about the cuban people and culture? No, you haven't learned anything. All you know is how to pump up the pockets of the communist party.

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A Sad Story Loriana
by: Sherina

I am so sorry Loriana, you really were duped by this fraudster.

It seems to be happening a lot, this type of fraud is widespread in Cuba, the internet is full of it.

It really is fraud. It is criminal and he should be charged with deception and sent to jail.

How can the Cuban government allow this marriage fraud to continue when they know the impact it is having on people's lives?.

How can the Canadian government allow these fraudsters to gain residency or a passport without taking the steps to investigate them.

Why does the foreigner have to take the pain, the financial loss the emotional trauma which these fraudsters incur by their deception.

I would warn any woman to watch out for the signs of fraud. The fake friendliness, the loving smiles, the fake warmth and hugs, the over familiarity. The invitations home to meet the family as as they meet you. All a bit too good to be true!.

The declarations of love. The 'Te Quiero Mucho' line.

The endless emails always written by their mother's friend who has access at her work to a computer. It could be written their girl friend but never themselves, they're too busy chasing other tourists at the bars and casas de la trovas.
The emails will be full of b.s. they will all read the same, and always and putting pressure on the recipient to respond, return, marry.The really clever ones will not ask for money, no they bide their time and wait, they are aware if they do this soon they could blow it.

Marriage fraud is rife in Cuba. It is criminal, and it has to be stopped.
Why would any woman or man want to marry a Cuban with the odds so stacked against it working out?.
It seems that the institution of marriage has been defiled, tainted by crooks these days. Anyone who wants to marry needs to have their head examined. Because inevitably chaos will follow, emotional and financial choas.
Save you money, and you sanity instead, and do not marry a Cuban!!

Comments by Vic webmaster Havana-guide.
Many sad stories, indeed. The Cuban Government act against fraud, there is a lot of police control, and the procedures to leave the country are difficult and long, but fraud will always exist, everywhere with Cuban partners as well as Asian, Russian and Latin American partners. We have to take our own responsability by not believing everything. Be vigilant!

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I am so sorry Loriana, you really were duped by this fraudster. It seems to be happening a lot, this type of fraud is widespread in Cuba, the internet is full of it. It really is fraud. It is criminal and he should be charged with deception and sent to jail. How can the Cuban government allow this marriage fraud to continue when they know the impact it is having on people's lives?. How can the Canadian government allow these fraudsters to gain residency or a passport without taking the steps to investigate them. Why does the foreigner have to take the pain, the financial loss the emotional trauma which these fraudsters incur by their deception. I would warn any woman to watch out for the signs of fraud. The fake friendliness, the loving smiles, the fake warmth and hugs, the over familiarity. The invitations home to meet the family as as they meet you. All a bit too good to be true!. The declarations of love. The 'Te Quiero Mucho' line. The endless emails always written by their mother's friend who has access at her work to a computer. It could be written their girl friend but never themselves, they're too busy chasing other tourists at the bars and casas de la trovas. The emails will be full of b.s. they will all read the same, and always and putting pressure on the recipient to respond, return, marry.The really clever ones will not ask for money, no they bide their time and wait, they are aware if they do this soon they could blow it. Marriage fraud is rife in Cuba. It is criminal, and it has to be stopped. Why would any woman or man want to marry a Cuban with the odds so stacked against it working out?. It seems that the institution of marriage has been defiled, tainted by crooks these days. Anyone who wants to marry needs to have their head examined. Because inevitably chaos will follow, emotional and financial choas. Save you money, and you sanity instead, and do not marry a Cuban!!<br> <b><big>Comments</b></big> by Vic webmaster Havana-guide. <br> Many sad stories, indeed. The Cuban Government act against fraud, there is a lot of police control, and the procedures to leave the country are difficult and long, but fraud will always exist, everywhere with Cuban partners as well as Asian, Russian and Latin American partners. We have to take our own responsability by not believing everything. Be vigilant!

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Loriana and all the Ladies Like you - You Have To Share the Blame!
by: Bill

Having read your post Loriana I cannot say I have any sympathy for you.

You say you were aware this jerk you married had a wife and kids, or was living with a Cuban woman?.

What the hell were you thinking about when you married him?.

Had you taken leave of your sense? Surely you could see the poverty the desperation there is in Cuba, how they find it hard to exist on $15 a month, how they beg tourists for a bar of soap.

Did you honestly think this was about Love?. I really cannot believe you were that misled.

I have stayed at hotels in Varadero and Guardalavaca and seen how large Canadian women, with very low self esteem, fall for the charms of a con artist waiter at the hotel. These women are pretty easy, it does not take much to get them into bed.

They drink and eat all day. they think they have to justify their $1,000 bucks so drink and eat like pigs.

They are despised by Cuban men. They are easy prey, and that is why I have not sympathy for you.

Castro needs to take action against the work shy Cuban men who seem to earn more from tubby Canadian women than doing a honest day's work.

You see them poncing around the hotels, the casa de la trovas waiting to pounce on some low self esteem Canadian who is desperate to get laid.

You should be ashamed of yourselves and put as much energy into raising your kids well as you do into bedding young Cuban workshy gigolos.

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Having read your post Loriana I cannot say I have any sympathy for you. You say you were aware this jerk you married had a wife and kids, or was living with a Cuban woman?. What the hell were you thinking about when you married him?. Had you taken leave of your sense? Surely you could see the poverty the desperation there is in Cuba, how they find it hard to exist on $15 a month, how they beg tourists for a bar of soap. Did you honestly think this was about Love?. I really cannot believe you were that misled. I have stayed at hotels in Varadero and Guardalavaca and seen how large Canadian women, with very low self esteem, fall for the charms of a con artist waiter at the hotel. These women are pretty easy, it does not take much to get them into bed. They drink and eat all day. they think they have to justify their $1,000 bucks so drink and eat like pigs. They are despised by Cuban men. They are easy prey, and that is why I have not sympathy for you. Castro needs to take action against the work shy Cuban men who seem to earn more from tubby Canadian women than doing a honest day's work. You see them poncing around the hotels, the casa de la trovas waiting to pounce on some low self esteem Canadian who is desperate to get laid. You should be ashamed of yourselves and put as much energy into raising your kids well as you do into bedding young Cuban workshy gigolos.

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WOW! THATS A TOUGH ONE
by: Twyla

I held my breath as I read your short story, and feel your pain. I become devasted by these stories, because we usually do not experience this in such a way in the democratic world.
Every day that I learn more about the cuban people I appreciate the Cuban Government more. I think the Government has good reason for the laws the implicate on the people, and they are not being hard.
I am a retired police officer, now an artist and writer of Children story books. I have travelled the world, but fell in love with Cuba, It is so different. So much culture and things of interest to the foreigner.
I have learnt alot about Cuba, by visiting at least every three months for the past 3 years. I have had some disapointments too in Cuba, but I hope I have learnt by my mistakes. However I am surprised you could get away with marrying a Cuban who was already married in Cuba. My experience is that the Government is very considerate with Foreign nationals. The main objective is that we try as best to learn about and follow, respect their laws. I share your disapointment and my advise is Soar like an eagle.

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Painful Cuban Situation
by: Vic

Thanks for your reaction. Indeed a painful situation that happens more than once. It's incredible how far some Cubans go, to find a means to leave the country.
Something puzzles me. To marry a Cuban citizen you have to provide a document of your status, that you are divorced, single or already married, to prevent double marriage.
I suspect that the Cuban couple you mention is not official married, otherwise this could not happend. Many Cubans live together without an official marriage and split easy. There are many single mothers in Cuba.
Wish you strenght and luck!
Vic
webmaster Havana-guide.com

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