fooled or just a fool in Havana Cuba?
I have the biggest "empty hole" in my stomach after reading all the previous posts about love in cuba. I want to believe that my "friend" is not like the jineteros that are so often described in the posts.
But there are so many similarities that my breath has been taken away.
I have a lump in my throat but I am going to jump into this forum to try to prove to myself that "friend" is honest, decent, and not a jinetero.
José is his name. He is a musician on the malecon. Yes, I know. You already have come to the conclusion because I said a musician on the malecon that he must be bad.
No so. He is a very talented guitar player with a beautiful voice. He is from Holguin but he would not make the kind of money he can make in Havana, so he had to move to Havana for work. He has left his family in Holguin to live the a life in a rooming house, in a small dingy room shared with many others.
He is so talented and its a shame that he cannot work closer to his home and family. In cuba you need to have a degree to play music in a government establishment. Since he has not a degree he is left to make a living by "begging" with his guitar and voice.
He is sweet and not loud and pushy like the others on the malecon. When we met he did not try to make conversation although he had plenty of time too. It was when I saw him nights later he very shyly made small talk.
He asked for nothing. He did not even ask to see me again.
For all I know, if I did not keep the "friendship" alive then he would of gained nothing.........and not ever seen me again.
So this leads me to believe he is genuine.
But after reading your posts I am numb. could I also of been one of the "mi Mujeres?"
If any of you know my "friend" it would mean so much to have feedback on him.
I know names are taken out of this post to keep his identity safe, I will say he plays in Barrio Chino and also the malecon. He actually looks a bit like a chino. He is tanned almost mulatto. He has dark sad eyes that tell a story without words.
He is thin, tall and always well dressed..............yes I do bring him clothes but I am now wondering where did the nice clothes come from before he met me?? I asked about his nice watch but he said someone gave it as a tip on for playing music.
He has never asked for anything........but my heart wants to give as I want him to have an easier existence.
Did he know how to play the game????? am I the loser? or are we both winners?
I am confused.
Comments by Vic Webmaster
Amy, I understand that you are confused, I guess that it is your first or second trip to Havana.
It took me many years to get a deeper insight in the Cubans and their way of life, and I do not pretend to be an expert, but your story sounds like what I call "The Havana Classic".
Sorry, this is no judgement, each story is unique, but...in Cuba nothing is what it seems! Enjoy life and your friend(s) in Havana, but don't get involved to deep! Cubans are sophisticated story inventors.
Some observations, be vigilant with Cubans in the tourist areas of Old Havana, most of them are in one way or another jineteros. First thing "common Cubans" will look at is his clothing, does he wear sports shoes (Nike, Addidas, etc.) designer jeans, T-shirts? A watch, a golden chain, few Cubans can afford it. Income from his music? Did you know that many Cubans from Santiago and Holguin travel illegal to Havana, because they think that in Havana they can make more money from the tourists.
So enjoy life and friendship in Havana but don't get involved too deeply, you will rarely find true Cuban friendship at the malecon or other tourist places.