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My cuban marriage divorce story

I would like to share my story, a story of a broken heart and broken dreams all thanks to a Cuban jinetero.


As most of the stories start, I met Alxxxx on vacation in Santa Lucia, Camaguey, Cuba. As we spent time together, I develop close feelings towards him. As time went on, I travelled back to visit and started talking about a life together. He promised he would love, care and respect me. I believed him, married him and brought him to Canada. I explained to him the life we live in Canada and how hard we work to survive. He promised he would work with me and adjust to the change.


Shortly after our wedding, I received notification from another girl telling me about her story with Alxxxx, and mentioned others as well. This was the beginning of the discovery of who he was a Jinetero looking for a ticket out of Cuba!


When he arrived in Canada, he started his control and manipulation by saying I was at fault for all his issues. He had left everything in Cuba to come with me, now, here; I was not what he expected. After the first year, once he had settled down, had learned the language, learned to drive and bought a car (all at my expense), he started his cheating and lying trail.
For two years I struggled with the feelings of betrayal and love at the same time. I couldn’t convince myself that he was a deceitful, a liar and a dishonest person. I couldn’t understand why he would treat me with such disrespect after all I had done for him, out of my love.


He cheated three times while in the short time he was with me. I discovered everything was a lie; he lied to me in order to get a ticket out of Cuba.
I found this out thru emails, text messages and phone calls. Once he arrived here, he saw the opportunities and once he had taken the last penny he could get from me, he found other girls to support him as he doesn’t want to put any effort on working to support himself.


This was the most painful experience I have ever been through. To live through lies, deceit and betrayal it feels like I was violated in my own home, in plain daylight and with my eyes wide open!!
It has been a nightmare, my personal confidence as a woman was put in question due to lies and accusations without base and support. It has been a long and painful recovery process. It will take time to heal, but I will never be the same!


I’m sharing my story with you because I believe this is the worst kind of person it exists in this world. I have witnessed many of my friends go through the same and it is unfair that we have no legal recourse to have this people pay for what they are doing.


As you can imagine, I spent a lot of money, time and effort into this relationship, only to have my money, hopes and my dreams stolen from me. He took away my core values of believing in people; believing that people are kind and good-hearted.


Alxxxx, is a con artist, that didn’t deserve a chance to come to this country. It was a big mistake I made and I’m paying dearly for it. I feel very terrible knowing I brought this person to this country and he is out there hurting other people. I am a human being and I deserve respect and as such I would like to see justice done with these people.

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I have spoken to many Cuban female friends, told them of these awful stories of how Cuban men have tricked Canadian ladies into sham marriages, the lies the trickery the scams the pain they cause.

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In being unfaithful they are putting their wives and partners health at risk of HPV and HIV of which there is a virulent strain in Cuba. Even Gonnhorea is widespread there and also resistant to antibiotics.

The women who fly to those resorts and sleep with the male wh@res who work there are risking their lives. Those guys get through at least 50 females each season.

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Do not bring them presents, they are using you, conning you. They earn more money than you do in salary and from selling all of the smart phones and laptops which naive gullible women shower them with.

Do not recharge their phones, they have more money than you and are taking advantage of your gullibility.

Do not tolerate or give these male wh@res the time of day. You will loose your money, your respect and most definitely risk your health.

Cuba has descended into a sleaze pit of sex tourism and deception.

Personally I think it is about as 'Authentic' as a greasy big Mac.

I would advice tourists to chose another destination.

Dengue Fever is widespread as is toxic algae (thought the tourist board or government will never let this new go public).

Cuba is hard work when it comes to being a tourist, very hard work. It's the largest island in the Caribbean, the buses are expensive and like ice boxes, the food is crap, the people are out to hustle you and scam you and see you as a mug waiting to be used and abused.

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by: Anonymous

Let's face it, you can't make a silk purse out of a pig's ear,

Reality check here!

If you're fat fifty and frumpy it won't work. So please so yourself a favour and wake up !

Cuban men have standards, at least when it comes to choosing women, and it sure as hell is not going to be an overweight frumpy little middle aged woman.

If you're fifty fat and frumpy no matter how much money you pump into his business, his casa, his paladar, and car, it sure as hell will not work.

So please stop whining when he walks out and you discover he has a woman half your age on the side.

It's life Move on! You were conned.

Cuban men have no qualms no morals no scruples when it comes to conning you out of your money or tricking you in a sham marriage

They do however, have standards when it comes to women, and basically you are not what appeals to them so wake up and smell the coffee.

You're fat, you're frumpy, you're 50, you are ot sexy! he will use you, he will con you, if you are dumb enough to allow him to.

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Some women are as desperate as the men. NEW
by: Anonymous

In reply to the last comment. I have seen examples of this too in Cuba and in Canada.

There is a sad obese woman in her mid 40's, the type referred to on this forum previously as one of the 'sick puppies' who fly to Cuban resorts looking for their warped view of 'love' due to an inner void.

They splash out lots of $'s on these men who play them like a violin they they resort out of desperation to naming him on one of those silly forms..'Anyone know J from Brisas' etc etc. in a desperate bid to find out if he has been faithful or not.


The realist is he has beern with a different yuma each week and loves the attention and regalos and has a better life in sunny Cuba than she does in cold Canada.

Tamara flies to Don Lino in Holguin four times a year. She is in love with the resort handyman who is happily married to a Cuban woman and is a good father to his three children. But Tamara dreams in her mind that he is her 'fiance' and arrives laden down with regalos which of course he is happy to accept.

This sick puppy needs to out her own life in order, all 200 lbs of her.


She needs to go on a diet to shed all those excess kilos and needs to get her head straightened out in therapy. And while she is at it she needs to get off her lazy ass and get a job and give the Canadian tax payers a break. Most of us work for a living, unlike the deluded Tamara.

I also know a middle aged woman who was rushed into a shot gun marriage with a little jinitero from Santiago di Cuba. The dude has not worked a day in their 12 years of marriage.

Miraculously this little blinged up pint sized P Diddy did manage to get the old gal pregnant and viola land a visa out of Cuba which was more than happy to be shot of this parasite.

We read a lot about 'sham marriages' 'fake marriages' But let us be honest about it, the women who have been duped are living in cloud cuckoo land. They need to ask themselves would a handsome 25 or 30 year old give them a second glance in their own home town and ask why only in Cuba they are getting attention however shallow it may be.


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After having read a few such stories a while ago, I imagined that this was a phenomenon restricted to people from Canada and the US. Recently though, I was told of such a story, which happened here in the town in which I live in Europe. In this case the woman involved paid for the man AND his 'ex-wife' to enter the country and stay. Despite (his loving benefactor and he) having had a child together, he apparently spends his weekends trawling the local bars, looking for conquests. Bizarre to say the least.

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Hello everyone, My name is Morgan Jackson, a citizen of USA; am 42 years of age..we got married for more than 11 years and have gotten two kids. thing were going well with us and we are always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treat me and the kids. later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted Dr Brave for the return of my husband to me, they told me that my husband have been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then they told me that they have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, they casted the spell and after 1 week my husband called me and he told me that i should forgive him, he started to apologize on phone and said that he still live me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that he Dr Brave casted on him that make him come back to me today,me and my family are now happy again today. thank you Dr Brave for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want you my friends who are passing through all this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact Dr Brave ,if you need his help you can contact him through his private mail: bravespellcaster@gmail.com or you can contact him through his website http://enchantedscents.tripod.com/lovespell/ and you will see that your problem will be solved without any delay.

Feb 25, 2015
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by: Dayne

Oh it was so strange to hear this divorce story. It seems to be entirely a different situation. Before we are going to take an important decision we should think twice to confirm whether it is right or not. Anyway bad luck! Castleton Law

Jan 31, 2015
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A shocking story and all too common in Cuba NEW
by: Anonymous

I was shocked to read about how this man scammed you into believing he was real

How did you meet him did he work at a hotel? It is so hard to know what is real and what is fake in Cuba, and not just with the resort workers who are notorious for scamming tourists.

How long did you know this man before you married him I agree with the moderator here, Victor, who gives excellent advice, he says you should wait at least four to five years before committing to marriage, as it is such a huge commitment and there is so much to lose when you consider their politics and wages and how the odds are stacked against you.


I mean it's a totally unequal relationship for a start, in the sense that they earn just 20 to 25 CUC a month, how can it ever be equal. However that does not give them the right to con or scam a foreigner.

I would advise any woman to go and live there for at least a month. You can find out a lot about them when you share their environment.

I got to know the real man in just two weeks of sharing his small home in Cuba. I began to realize by the second day that he was a selfish arrogant man with a very short fuse who tended to fly off the handle if things were not going his way. I did not like it.

When he was gone to work I would try to question his mother about him and his temper tantrums, she would brush it aside, clam up, saying she did not wish to discuss her family.I knew that she was covering up for her selfish son, she seemed like a browbeaten woman who have been through a lot of street with his father as well as him.

One day I managed to get luck. His aunt visited and was far more communicative. She liked me and we got along. When the mother was in the kitchen preparing her golden boy's lunch I quizzed his auntie about his outbursts and his character.

I mentioned that his father looked incredibly stern, angry even in all of the family photographs which his mother has shown me. In all of the pics. my b.f. was also looking serious, unsmiling.

His aunt confirmed my thoughts exactly. yes his father had been an angry man with a very short fuse who had been physically mentally and emotionally violent towards his wife, and as all behaviour is learned behaviour my friend had grown up to repeat the same pattern.

He had been verbally and emotionally abusive with his ex Cuban wife. Not beaten her but very abusive verbally.

While his mother (his father) had left her abusive husband on many occasions and returned home, my friend's ex-wife had never left the marital home but she had in fact died, of breast cancer. I have often wondered if there is a close link between abuse violence and cancer.

I asked his aunt if she thought his motives were genuine if he really loved me as I did not wish to ruin my life by marrying an abusive thug of a man.

No, she said, he is all about 'interest'with C, all self interest. I do not know if her assumption was incorrect but it was all I needed to know.

I guess I had already made my mind up, my decision that marriage would be a bad choice with regard to this man.

What I am trying to say to you is that you might have saved yourself a lot of heartache not to mention emotional and financial heartache.

To all ladies on here, I would seriously advise you to learn some Spanish and try to spend some time living with them before contemplating marriage.

It could save you a lot of stress in the long term.






Jan 27, 2015
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You Are Not Alone But Life Goes On! NEW
by: Anonymous

I felt so sad reading your story. This guy 'A' is a con man, a criminal and prostitute, since he is using women as a means to escape poverty.

I do hope that you have reported him to Canadian Immigration and also to the Cuban Embassy. There are name and shame Cuban websites where you can expose him and chat to other women whom he may have conned.

Believe me you are not alone. The Cuba amor website is full of similar stories. How do these conmen get away with it.

I have two friends who have had similar experiences. Both are educated attractive intelligent women in their 30's, yet they were completely taken in by Cuban con men who turned out to be controlling, manipulative, cheating liars as soon as they arrived in Canada.

Both men are from Santiago di Cuba, I do not know if it is because this city has a high rate of unemployment that it has such a large number of Jiniteros and criminal con men.

But both ladies were completely taken in, tricked into sham marriages with these scumbag jiniteros who did not want to work when they landed in Canada. Old habits die hard, they never really worked in Santiago, just spent their time hustling tourists.

One scumbag - Ernesto turned violent and would shout and beat up my friend Daniella if she expressed concern at him going out each night to the salsa clubs.

They had a baby whom he never supported. Her friends and family gave her money and food since she was literally destitute

This thug was abusive manipulative physically and mentally violent to her, we advised her to inform the police, which she finally did, and had him removed from her home.

The other friend married a loser also from Santiago. You would think she would have seen through his b.s. She is travel editor of Elle magazine and met this con man on a research trip to Santiago writing an article on travelling by train in Cuba

This little con man immediately got her pregnant which managed to land him a visa almost immediately. That was 12 years ago however and the law has tightened up since then which can only be a good thing.

This little guy never worked a day in his life. Once a Jinitero always a Jinitero. He played around the salsa clubs and saw himself as a 'dj' though he never earned a penny and leeched off my friend until she finally say sense and kicked his lazy butt out of her life. No doubt he had more naive women to support him.


I can feel the pain you are going through, but if it's any consolation time is a great healer. Life does go on. thank God you did not have a child with him.

Please expose this con man. Contact the media, the newspapers and t.v. stations. Name and shame this criminal, if only to save other women from being conned by him.

I wish you the very best!.

Jan 23, 2015
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Samething here NEW
by: Anonymous

The same thing happened to me, but with an Eastern European woman. More than that, we have a child together and she's now trying to take me for all I've got.

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