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My Cuban Marriage

I'm a Canadian girl and got married in a ceremony in Cuba attended by friends and family.
After the marriage I returned to Canada, started the immigration process and went back to Havana, 6 months pregnant to visit my Cuban husband.
When my husband went out to get food and drinks, he forgot his cellphone and I could read some messages from other English speaking "loves". I was very upset and cried. After my husband came back he admitted everything and I understood that I was only one of his loves. I felt broken and returned to Canada. A few months later our marriage was over.

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My Cuban Marriage

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starstarstarstarstar 		i know wat u mean
by: smc

im cuban but i live in canada many guys in cuba go and look for girls even older women so they can get them out of cuba or help them with clothes or even give them money those guys are called chulos so u have 2 b very careful when u go to cuba n dont just fall in love right away n have a baby with some1 that u dont know that well
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starstarstarstarstar 		consider yourself lucky.
by: Kyle

To the lady who got married and went back to find out he has other lover, you are very lucky you found out. If he wasn't so stupid he would've kept his phone on him at all times, and you would never find out. The scam he was running on you could have went on for years while you're supporting him his family and possibly a Cuban girlfriend. This would have cost you thousands and thousands of dollars over the years, and a lot more emotional turmoil than what your already going through, so thank your lucky stars and dont make the same mistake again.
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starstarstarstarstar 		A Sad Story
by: KAREN

This is a very sad account of a woman who was duped by a con man.

Right now I think she needs our sympathy. By being honest enough to share her experience she has helped other women like myself avoid being used in this way by a con artist.

There are so many of them, mainly working at the tourist resorts.

I think these stories should be a warning to women everywhere to beware the hustlers who work at those all inclusive hotels who change women faster that they change their underpants.

However they are not representative of all Cuban men.

Does anyone on here have a positive story to tell?. Where she/he found true love which lasted and was not based on a passport to Canada?.

If such a relationship exists I would love to hear about it.
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starstarstarstarstar 		Interesting response
by: Penny

So "judging" by your reponse they were bang on about your situation. You are just another selfish woman who put her own insecurities and shallow needs and wants ahead of her children and husband. Has he left you or have you put him in a position so that he can't without supporting your selfish existence? It's really a shame women like you land men who will put a ring on their finger only to take advantage of them and give the rest of us a bad name. Forgiveness from us? Tell me, has he forgiven you? I doubt it. Heres a question. Have you put as much energy into becoming a free and independent woman as you have into these petty relationships with these pathetic latin men? Is the next latin dance party more important than getting on with your life as an independent strong woman? As was said before Grow up and move on; then perhaps forgiveness will come.
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starstarstarstarstar 		How about forgiveness?
by: Anonymous

So much judgement on these situations! I think it's very sad for all people involved. Yes families have been hurt but there are so many factors in each individual's lives that people looking from the outside should keep their opinions to themselves. These families are hurting and who are we to say what is right or wrong for any one person. It's human to make mistakes. When we admit to them and try to change, that's what matters in the end. Just a thought.
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starstarstarstarstar 		Your the real fraud
by: Marcia

Your suprised that a guy in Cuba lied to you about his relationship status? Your accusing him of marriage fraud? Let's see. Are you married? Did you cheat on your husband with this guy? Have you cheated on your husband with other latin lovers or otherwise? Take a look in the mirror and see who's really guilty of marriage fraud. My God !
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starstarstarstarstar 		Get real Late 40's
by: Sandra

I guess stupidity has nothing to do with age. You would think youve been around long enough to know that these guys use the women who travel. How could you let this happen. Let me guess, you have children who are in their teens and have pulled away from their mother for independence and you try to fill the void with meaningless relationships with Latino casanovas because they make you feel good when they dance with you. I feel sorry for your husband if you still have one. Lets hope for his sake you have set him free so he can find someone more worthy of his love. One word. Pathetic!
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starstarstarstarstar 		I agree...you are a foolish 40's woman
by: Debbie

Your probably another one of these 40 something wives married to a great stable guy who you dont appreciate and throw it all away for some loser lothario because your husband can't salsa. Your pathetic and I hope he finds someone who deserves him. You deserve whatever pain you are currently going through and more!!
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starstarstarstarstar 		Your foolish
by: Anonymous

I cannot believe how foolish you are to think you have "a man" in Cuba. Let me guess...he works at a resort, probably in one of the service sections. The fact that you are in your late 40's and still fell for this crap is astounding. You are probably married and unhappy and instead of rectifying your situation and getting on with your life and being independent you cling to this fantasy garbage. Heres some advice. Get on with your life. Leave your husband. Become an independent woman (emotionally and financially) and find someone real. You are probably stalling your marriage breakup just so you can continue to have these ridiculous relationships which have no hope of ever panning out or be built on any real foundation. Grow up !
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starstarstarstarstar 		your child
by: Anonymous

I pray your child brings you every happiness and that your husband lives to regret the honest life you offered him
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starstarstarstarstar 		Is Marriage Fraud in Cuba Related to Age?
by: Anonymous

I keep seeing posts about "young cubans" marrying fraudulantly. I'm late 40s and my cuban man who claims he truly loves me is 51 and supposedly divorced with a grown son. Has this fraud happened to many my age?

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Difficult question! There are no (reliable) statistics about fraudulent marriages. I guess it can happen at all ages. A marriage is mainly based on love and trust, but an important factor too is economic well-being. This is a big problem in Cuba, the average salary is 400-500 Peso Cubano ( +/- 20 USD per month ). Many young Cuban couples live together, with parents and grand parents because they can't afford to be independent. It's not easy to build up a future. So money plays an important role and several youngsters separate for economic reasons. Mature Cuban people tend to have a more stable relation. But I don't want to blame the Cubans, let's be honest these "fraud things" happen everywhere, but when there is a close relation and mutual trust a Cuban marriage can be as good as any other.
Wish you all the best,
Vic, webmaster Havana-guide.com

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