Romantic but Realistic Love in Cuba

by brad
(canada)

I have read every post on this website. I am trying to gain insight into whether my lady in cuba is the real deal. I met her online, she just graduated and became an engineer. I am 44 and she is 24. After emailing on line for a month, I visited her. I brought her some shampoo and the like as presents. I spent maybe 200 on some nice clothes for her. We had some wonder nights together, but on the last day, I told her I loved her, and she told me she did not. At least I not lie to you is what she said after. I had told her i loved her several times in emails but she never once told me she loved me, she told me it was just physical attraction. It was hard to live with that, how unusual is that? A guy wanting the younger lady for love and her wanting me for sex! I was sad, but I accepted it. As I love her so completely, I 'll take her anyway I can get...lol.

But seriously I got my heart feed to me, that does nt happen often. All you romantics out there will be happy to know I persisted pursuing her online and now she is telling me she loves me too. And you know what? When I returned to Canada, I decided I wanted to help her and her family the best I could. Seeing that image of them opening their fridge and basically nothing being in there, is burned in my memory, and when her granny made me spaghetti in Havana, and it contained rotten meat, I ate some of it, but brushed it to side of my plate. These people are very poor, with no real hope of improving that.
I left my cushy resort and drove all across that country, from Havana to Santiago de Cuba. I saw a very happy good hearted people. I am no fool and neither is she, we are realistic, when she completes her 3 years of work, to compensate for her education, she and I will come to Canada after we marry. We cannot right away as she will be working in a sensitive government area, that will not permit marriage to foreign nationals.
My lady is very beautiful, charming, smart, honest, loving, and to my surprise, strong. Despite all these horror stories, I will continue my relationship with her, but very cautiously. Any sign of deception, and I'm ota of this. But despite reading all of these stories, I will begin sending money to help them next week.
Even if we don't work out, then it is my gift to them. Always approach new relationships with caution, and be realistic. Really get to know who you are courting. Additionally, after reading this, I feel confident in her, I have truly found that one in a million.
Love in Cuba