Stop Moaning! About Love in Cuba
I visited cuba many times and I am actually in love with a cuban girl. She's probably a bit "un-cuban", that means quite serious and thoughtful - she doesn't even drink alcohol. Anyway...many posts I've read just show how blue eyed we Europeans, Canadians...run into trouble. I wonder what decisions WE would make, if we'd earn € 15-20 a month.
Europeans cheat in their countries in many ways, businesswise or whatsoever and I bet we would be the first to do the jinetero/a job in a similar situation.
Money counts. I come from a wealthy Austrian city where you can see many rich "papis" with their young (austrian) girlfriends… what’s the difference…? Nothing but the fact that the Austrian jineteras would probabyl not support their family at home.
Back to cuba: I've learnt how much Cubans are pushed into dating foreigners by their families and because family counts the most in this country (more as a safety net as because of „family-love“), they will do so. We find that totally immoral which is probably true but that question is a kind of luxury many cubans cannot afford. A beautiful son/daughter often is seen as an opportunity for the family (watch the little cuban girls practise to walk cuban style… ). Next, even between Cubans, those who HAVE count the most.
Cubans also pay Cubans for sex! Which leads to the same problem "we" are facing: I have seen a cuban guy into tears fearing that his Cuban girlfriend loved him just because of the monthly paycheck he receives from his mother who lives in Miami.
Another story: the sister of my girlfriend once shouted at me in a restaurant in Santiago (pointing at a group of Swiss ladies "in their best ages" with young cuban men) how unfair it was, that a European lady ("muy fea!") is able to come to cuba anytime she likes and "steal" young cubans... I can promise you, she meant it just like that.
For those who fall in love with Cuban girls/boys or ladies/men (don't forget, there are many attractive loveable women and men in their fourties and fifties as well!) here are my advices:
1. Learn Spanish and TALK with him/her – and doubt as much as you would doubt at home.
2. Stay with him/her in cuba.
3. Don't be silly - look in the mirror (and at the age mentioned in your passport). If your "re an old bag, why don't you look for a cuban equivalent - I bet you would have the time of your life. Concerning my future plans: the family’s padrino told me (while laughing loud) the last time I saw him: „don’t come back to cuba or come back and marry! But remember: if you come back again without marrying your girlfriend like you did many times, your balls will fall off!“.
I just love this very strong culture…