TRUSTING A CUBAN IS VERY HARD

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TRUSTING A CUBAN IS VERY HARD

(Camaguey Cuba)

I am a foreign national and was the woman parterner of a Cuban National for 3 years. I bought a house in Cuba, with the intention of getting married to him. The first problem we had he went to the Immigration Department and asked them to remove me from his house and off the Island. Wow!!!!! this was unbelieveable, considering I had bought the house with my hard earned money. He had never worked in his life. I also bought the Refrigerator stove and all of the appliances, and all the furniture inside, down to the bed pots, food and everything. Including supporting him for 3 years.
Anyway I was smarter than he thought I took the keys and gave the house to the Governent. The Cuban is now living with his uncl sleeping on th floor, with no job and no money. Dont you think he deserve to be where he is?. I would suggest living with a Cuban it is best to only be on an adventure, and tell him so.

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Apr 07, 2011
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i didnt know a foreigner could buy a house ????
by: aimebanes

you said: «I'am a foreign national and was the woman partner of a Cuban National for 3 years. I bought a house in Cuba, with the intention of getting married to him. The first problem we had he went to the Immigration Department and asked them to remove me from his house and off the Island. Wow!!!!!

I always heard that you have to be a cuban to buy property ?

Oct 15, 2010
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Nine years of deceit
by: Markisparky

I was married to a Cuban girl for almost nine years and lived with me in Ireland for that period. I didn't realize the amount of lies she told me over the years until I discovered she was having multiple affairs at home in Cuba and she used to say to me every time when she wanted to go home that her family needs her and I tried to accommodate and understand as best I could with them but they exploited me for every spare cent I had in addition to her being unfaithful to such an extent. When we met we were both 18 and 21, so not your typical old guy with a young girl so I thought that she was at least genuine with me. Well, lucky for me our child was born in Ireland were I reside and our house is too, and she never bothered claiming citizenship which of late all backfired on her, then she fled the country alone when I wouldn't let our daughter go as she wanted her as a bargaining chip to exploit more money from me. She's now back where she belongs with her dysfunctional family that knew all that was going on for the last few years. I could write a book about her. It didn't even matter if I spoke fluent Spanish and mixed with other Cubans as I did, Cuban women like her are spoiled and don't view relationships for long term.

Jun 19, 2010
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Thank You For Sharing Your Story
by: Donna

I read your story with interest and I hope that women will heed your warning about the danger of marrying a Cuban hustler.

I read with horror the stories of women meeting these hustlers who work on the entertainment team or 'animacion' as they are known.

These gullible women believe the men who tell them they want to get engaged within a few weeks of knowing them.

The alarm bells do not seem to ring when these casanovas send them their bank details or hustle them for a cellphone for 'better communicaton'.

We were stunned by the ease at which the animacion team at the Aguas Azules in Varadero hustled a group of sluts from Ottowa into bed within hours of them stepping off their bus.

These little tarts paid the entrance for the hustlers to the Mambo Club and stripped off in the pool at 4am waking everyone up with their shouting.

Do you blame these hustlers for jumping at the chance of a passport when women like these throw themselves at them. And every week a plane flies in yet another group of eager women.

Feb 14, 2010
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Too many Cuban Men Are Giving Us A Bad Name!
by: Javier

In reply to the last commment by Anonymous I agree with you when you say not all Cuban men are the same.

However far too many are not honourable men and are giving the rest of us a bad name. It seems that too many of them are from Santiago di Cuba and are not working so they see a foreign woman as a way out to an easy life.

I came to Europe to further my music studies. I play classical music. I did not use a woman to advance my career.

I am living in London and I am sickened by the Cuban men i meet who clearly have used British women as a way out of poverty.

One guy in particular from Santiago has not held down a job in the eight years he has been in London.

Hre married a much older woman, not at all pretty. But she has a good job as travel editor on a woman's magazine. This man is from Santiago, he looks like her son. He never worked in Santiago and having made her pregnant she flew him to London where she owns a home.

He saw himself as a d.j. which gave him access to many young and prettier women.

Every night this small man is dressed up in chains and dreadlocks, and white suits and cruising the nightclubs. he warns no money, and his silly wife puts up with it.

He is the kind of man who gives the rest of us a bad name.

Dec 27, 2009
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not all cubans are the same
by: Anonymous

hi 2 every1 out there. i would just like 2 say i am on my 2nd relationship 2 a cuban girl. i havve 2 say there are some geniue cubans out there who are good people. i am now with another cuban girl from havana and she is a great person.a great heart and will do anything 4 me. the problem i had with my 1st cuban girl was i was just thinking with my dick & that will always get you into trouble&she was very young when i met her. hence it not working.
all you have to do is be patient go to the right places away from tourist spots. i know cuba very well & i have taken many friends to cuba & they have met &married good cuban girls. my girlfriend i met her when she was on her way to work for $$12 per month. waking @ 6am &returnig @6pm @ night.
dont get me wrong i have been conned by cuban girls along the way&quite badly. but i had met some many good girls out there who just like my girlfriend just want the chance. so many girls out there would love the chance & are lived that all the bad girl get the tourists. many off my girlfriends friends are the nicest girls that you will ever meet.
good decent hard working lovely big hearted girls who would love to meet a forginer & make him happy.
no 1 know what the future holds but i have been with my fiancee 4 2 years now. she lives between me in the uk&i stay with her when i am in cuba @ the apartment she has that she shares with her mum.
believe me just take your time drive out into the country away from tourist & mix with the locals & you will find good decent ladies. i am not saying you will stike lucky 1st time but when you do find a good 1 they are worth all the hassle of visas and paperwork.
i do believe that if she lives full time in the uk&mixes with western girl&they put ideas in her head then the relation will fail.
but because she lives between me & her mum it keeps her in good order and keeps her in her place.
my last girlfriend in the uk cost me £275.000
and that was after 12 years together & it put me back 15 years finacally.
so i have 2 be carefull with whoever i am with.
but please do not tar all cubans with the same brush because there are some beautifull faithfull girls out there waiting to give guys anything &everything that a guy wants.

Dec 21, 2009
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My Santiago Cellist story continued...
by: Stephania

In fact had been bitching all night that musicians work for slave wages in Cuba. So I was merely commenting on this and my feelings about him at the time.

In my slightly inebriate state trying to aportion the blame on him for the crime of entering my room without signing the register.

This had been the main topic of his conversation all night. How undervalued he felt, how he worked for nothing. How unfair it all was.

He looked stunned when I blurted this out in the hallway and turned on his heel and walked out.

He never contacted me again, not by phone, nor by email.

So much for all the 'Te Quero Mucho" 'Te Amo'
scripts.

Looking back I realise the she hawk landlady had done me a huge favour.

Had he really loved me he would have contacted me regardles of the incident at the casa.

He was a spoilt brat prima donna. An overwight mommy's boy anyway.

Of which there are too many in Canada already!.

Dec 21, 2009
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I Too Was Very Nearly Scammed By A Cuban Con Man
by: Stephania

I can sympathise with the lady who started this post. Because I can relate to how very easily it is to be connect by a Cuban charmer.

Last year I was approached by one such hustler in Santiago di Cuba one Sunday afternoon.Not really my type, a little to chubby for my liking. But charming with nice eyes.

He sat at a table drinking rum, not rum he had bought, but drinking from a bottle which was purchased by one of his friends. The hustler never pays for anything.

He asked a Cuban woman, an older lady to approach me. she told me that he was interested in my and wanted to offer me a drink, from the shared bottle, not that he planned to purchase me one.

He told me he was a classical musician, a cellist with the Orchestra which was situated in a beautiful old church nearby. He invited me to a rehearsal next day and I must admit he played beautifully. I as very impressed.

That evening he invited me to meet his family. His father is also a musician. His stepmother was very charming and prepared me dinner.

What alarmed me waqs the tone of their conversation. I felt I was being set up. I uunderstand Spanish and she was talking about 'A Veija' and an 'Estranjaera' and what a great way it was to get out of Cuba.

I felt insulted, I am older than Jose but not that much, there is a five year age difference. I felt that he was as cunning as his family.

As soon as I arrived home the emails kept arriving daily. They obviously knew someone who had access to the internet, who'snamje was Vivian.

The messages were all 'Te Quiero Mucho' Te Amo Mi Amor' etc. etc.

He told me his father was looking for an apartment where we could stay and not be hassled as we would be in a casa particular where he would have to register.

When I returned this year I thought I would surprise him I turned up to a rehearsal and he was stunned!.

He called his stepmother who invited me to dinner. Once again it was all a very cosy set up.

I had purchased a bottle of rum, and since his parents did not drink, we became a little tipsy.

He accompanied me back to my casa particular. The owner of the casa like a hawk appeared at the door as we entered.

She accosted him in the hall, and asked him to sign the register. He was shocked, he looked at her sheepishly like a child who'd been caught with his fingers in the cookie jar.

I despised this woman, Madam Vivien.

She and her partner Jorge - a married hustler form Cubanacan hotel group, were running a casa that had the morality of a knockinig shop a bordello, and I was about to check out.

I had encountered lots of ugly sleazy old Italian and German grandads sneaking in young Cuban women and she turned a blind eye as they were obviously slipping her the dd $50.

Displaying slightly more bravado than I would normally due to the consumption of Cuba Libres I informed her that he was a hustler who was looking for a ticket out of Cuba s he could play with the famous Symphonies of the world for a proper wage.

Nov 26, 2009
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A Very Sad Story But Life Goes ON
by: Cynthia

I was very moved by your story Camaguey. You are an intelligent lady who loved a man who turned out to a nasty fraud.

It must have been a shock to have the man you trusted try to kick you out of the house that you bought for him.

I can only think it is the social climate in Cuba which creates such deceitful thugs.

If you earn $15 a month and you see foreigners with all the trappings, IPods cellphones nice clothes, it must be tempting for them to try to con you.

It is wrong but what is the alternative for them?To pay $5,000 on the black market for a raft to the States, when chances are they will never reach their destination.

So much easier for them to romance and con a tourist. So many women seem to fall for it.

The Cuban immigration and police do not make it easy for foreign women in relationships with Cubans. They have to 'commit' by force, sign a registration book if they want to invite him to their casa particular. He has to provide his ID no. and can be liable for arrest if his name appears on a register too many. That puts a pressure on a couple.

It seems there is a conspiracy by the Cuban authorities to rid themselves of lazy layabouts who are a liability on the Cuban state. They are given their exit visas as soon as some gullible woman is mug enough to fork out the mnehy for these loafers.

A lazy workshy man is a liability to any country, not just Cuba, he is a burden on the state.

No doctor scientist or engineer is given an exit visa regardless of being married to a foreginer or now.

The lazy man, the jinetera in contrast has no problem whatsoever in leaving as soon as poor woman pays for his lazy ass.

The Cubans are glad to be rid of him, as any country would be.

Jan 20, 2009
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FREE TRADE FOR SMALL BUSINESS
by: Anonymous

I have been visiting Cuba for a about 3 years now. If I did not love Cuba I would not have came back after the first trip. Although I have a peronal friend there, I love Cuba more. I enjoy the look of the buildings, I enjoy going for long walks and taking the bici Taxi. I lov getting up in morning to the voice of "Pan caliente" I enjoy they way of life, its not overnearing. I respect the Government, I think it is the best in the world.
Suggestions: I would like to see Cubans being able to have small business without being opressed by the government, whereby they pay a licence once every six months or once a year of a fixed rate in CUC. I would also like to see Cubans being in a position to buy or build a house or buy property. I would also like to see Cubans who do not want to work be forced to do so with the governent and given minimum wages. I would like to see more emphasis being put on the school children (female) and the way they dressed. Longer skirts, and not allowed to roam the streeets in uniform. I would love to be able as a foreigner to assist with orphanage and day care schools. I love Cuba

Jan 20, 2009
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It's a sad story, but indeed reality in Cuba
by: vic

Abuse, and Marriage fraud are daily practice in Cuba. Statistics suggests that 7 per 10 marriages in Cuba end in a divorce. To take some precautions is no luxury, the average Cuban get married for the money and the better life only.
Even in case of "real" love the foreigner is bringing the wealth into the marriage.
It's a tragedy that a lot of Cubans don't want to work anymore. The average salary is 10-15 US$ and with some stuff sold on the black market or to tourists on the streets, he can make a months salary in one day. On big billboards the Cuban Government is making a call to the population : I am working! And you?. But Cubans reply: after one day hard work I earn not enough to pay one beer.

Vic
Webmaster havana-guide.com

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