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Ugly Stories in Cuba

by alex gordon
(canada)


these stories are like a plague! I'm scared and showing it.


I met her family that she lives with, and stayed a night. She didn't directly introduce me to all her family. And gave me the lightest hug when leaving. But she seems like she likes me, its me that is plaguing the relationship with doubt. I asked her "did you pick up a new boyfriend?" And she is deeply hurt. Now doesn't want to talk its been 1 week. We use to talk about our future and I love you. Even those other phases she says to me. Now its crickets on the phone. Do you think this could have been a good girl that my insecurity pushed away? It was reading these stories that started me to worry. In Canada, and can only visit 2 weeks every 6 months. Should I try to maintain our relationship or am I playing myself? Thinking this could have been a "pretty woman" movie.
Remark by Vic webmaster

A major difficulty in a Cuban relationship is the language and the cultural barriers!
Learn (Cuban) Spanish and some Cuban slang!
See also my remarks above.
All the best!

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Dec 16, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		hollywood is wrong
by: Anonymous

You mentioned Pretty Woman.
Don't forget the Jamie and Aurélia couple from the film Love Actually, where they fell for each other in spite of the language barrier, but when they eventually saw each other again, they had each learned the other language and live happily ever after. In real life, it doesn't happen like that, especially with Cuban jineteros. The jinetero will come back to your country and sit on the couch with his hand down his pants all day, whilst you go out to work (alternatively, he may become a "dance teacher" or "DJ"). The jinetera will come and spend all your money, and maybe accuse you of domestic violence/abuse to get you kicked out of your house (meanwhile she uses mental abuse against you). In the end, they will leave you for their Cuban novio, once both of them are in your country.

In many ways it's better if they just piss off after a few weeks, and you never hear from them again.
Nov 11, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		not your fault
by: Anonymous

Don't blame yourself, that's exactly what she wants you to do!

There is a very good chance that she does have a boyfriend in Cuba, and has got several others across the world. Don't doubt that for one minute.

You, by asking that question, let her know that the game is up, so she decided to put some distance between you and her. This can then pan out one of two ways:
1) She loses you but she has the other 'boyfriends' to keep on with
2) You feel guilty and give her another chance, forgetting about the fact that she probably has another 'boyfriend'.

Presumably you took gifts too? Clothes? Drink? Medicine? Phone? DVD player 'for work'? And these were given to her the moment you arrived? If that's the case you might as well go home right away because you have served your purpose. She won't even have to bother feeding you - bonus for her!

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